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writes:I need some advice.....My fiance called off our wedding and engagement 7 weeks before we were supposed to get married. (August 1, 2009). He had gone away to Maine for memorail day weekend with some friends. He came back acting a little distant and not himself. He applied to a job in Maine without telling me and quit his job without telling me. We had planned to move to Maine after we had gotten married but, after he told me what he had done we just agreed that he would go to Maine and stay with friends and I would stay at our current apartment until after the wedding.He went back to Maine the following Friday after he had applied to the job for an interview. He spent the entire weekend up there and came home telling me he wasn't sure he wanted to get married. To make a long story short he basically lead me on for two weeks telling me that he wanted to me to move to Maine with him and that we would try to work things out. I wasn't ready to let go so, I agreed that we would work through this.It wasn't until his best friend told me that my fiance had cheated on me while away in Maine over memorial day weekend and this wasn't the first time that he had done it in our relationship. When I asked my ex fiance why he told me he wanted to work on things when he had no intentions of being with me he told me that it was what he thought I wanted to hear. I told him that I needed space and didn't want to talk to him.So, here we are about three weeks from the breaking news and he won't leave me alone. I changed my number and ended up giving it to him only because we still had our apartment together and some other things that we needed to discuss. I ended up changing my number again because he wouldn't stop texting me and texting me about things that don't matter. And now he is trying to contact me through facebook. So, I guess my question is...why is he doing this??? He broke it off with me. Why won't he leave me alone? May I also add that he didn't even come get his stuff from our apartment he made his best friend do it. Just plan confused.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Dear just plan confused,
Yes - so he wants you and he doesn't want you. He cheated on you but still wants you.
You are the devil he knows (at worst) or the woman he loves, the one he had chosen over all others. Only he realised that there were others....
So why is he doing this - well he still likes you and can't let go at the same time he wants something else.
the question you have to ask is do you want him ? its really a yes - no question. I think that the past could be the past, but its really up to you. Was he so bad? Did you - do you still love him, with every ounce of your self? Does being in love mean you will forgiven him?
Star.x.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (11 July 2009):
 You've heard the saying, "don't know what you've got 'til it's gone?" He is regretting his silly actions right now because he lost a good woman. Frankly he sounds like a lost cause. Keep blocking him and stay strong...you will find someone soon who will appreciate you for the awesome person that you are.
Good luck.
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