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writes:So... basically, i'm in love with one of my friends. i've known her for quite some time now (about 5 years) and have loved her ever since. when i knew that i had feelings for her, i took my courage in both hands and confessed my feelings for her. when she refused, I tried to pass the whole affair as a stupid high school crush, as i didn't want to undermine our friendship. she did tell me that she wasn't prepared for a relationship at all, and so far she has rejected any advances anyone had made on her.Fast-forward a couple of years. we have both taken different paths in our lives, and I haven't seen her in quite some time, although we still keep in touch. I had managed to surpress my feelings for her in order to concentrate on my life. recently though, these feelings have reemerged, and I don't know what to do. Should I try again, take a fresh start, or is it hopeless? Should I try to move on again, knowing hat i will be unable to have any relationship, because all will seem bland in comparison?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 December 2012):
 The simple advice you need is this: Move on.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (10 December 2012):
 OP you might really love this girl but you have to accept that if its not to be, then its not going to happen. You cant obviously force her to like you and frankly its her loss if she doesn't because you sound like a nice person. Let her go, remember, its NOT your loss.
As regards future relationships, don't be ridiculous and shut yourself from the prospect of having something wonderful with a girl who truly loves you. By assuming that everything will be bland in comparison you are not even giving anyone else a chance. And who is anyone to say about what the future holds? Just like you didn't think anyone could mean as much to you as this girl, similarly there will be someone else who will blow you off your feet and you wont even know it.
Just dont shut yourself up from the world, that's it. Remember, sometimes whatever happens is for the best and in a few years time when you are with your perfect someone, you will look back at all these pieces of the jigsaw puzzle and smile at the way that things turned out!
And remember, never cry over someone who wont cry over you!
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