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writes: This is really hard for me so here it goes. Well I feel as if my dad and his fianceé are always arguing. Today I did not mean to but I heard what they were saying and she(we will call her Alli) is crying. They were arguing and Alli was talking about leaving him. I know there is nothing I can do and it is none of my business.What do I do because when I think about it I dont want her to leave, she is like a mom to me(even though I have a mom) and she said I am like a daughter to her(even though she has a daughter that is my half sister I think (since she is my dad's daughter and her daughter)Do I talk to them or wait until they talk to me?
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (13 December 2009):
Since you are close to her, why don't you talk to her first and tell her that you couldn't help overhearing their fight. Tell her how much you love her and don't want her to go. Ask her to try work things out and go for counseling.
Then separately, go to your dad and tell him the same thing. Sometimes when two adults are arguing, just reminding them to speak to each other can help them think better.
but it is very important for you to understand that you cannot solve the problems. They have to do it themselves. You are just reminding them to get help. But at the end of the day, its up to them and if it doesnt work then its not your fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah she is my half sister. I live with my dad and my mom lives in PA with my other half sister and brother.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 Oh dear, sadly if your dad and his partner are to split there isnt much you can do about it, even sadder if it means your half sister moving out as well, it seems strange that you arent sure if your sister is your sister, do you live with your mother or with your father and Ali?
If they do split you need to make sure you keep in contact with your little sister, visit with her often and keep in touch with phone calls, emails and letters.
Chin up, life sucks at times but there are also some magnificent and wondrously happy times to balance out the bad.
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