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My dad and uncle have raped me! I'd be better off dead..........

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Question - (27 May 2007) 17 Answers - (Newest, 14 March 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, *otHunny writes:

im in a despreate postion

my uncle and dad are not good people

they rape and beat me they are drunk all day long

please dont laugh this is my last hope to talk to anyone

im 15 now and was 12 the first time i slept in the woods alone so i didnt get raped when i got home

i dont know what ive done wrong

i feel like im not worth anything maybe id be better off dead i dont know

this has being going on for aslong as i can remember this is the first time ive ever talked about it

i wish i was dead

the rape and beatings have scared my soul

i feel dirty and discusting

showering doesnt help

please help

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A female reader, chinesekim Bahamas +, writes (14 March 2010):

For one thing, You should tell somone, family aunt brother sister who ever you have to go to. dont let it stick in ur mind,

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A female reader, 'Sophie. United Kingdom +, writes (22 May 2009):

Im 14 and i cant achually realate to enything like this im my life so far but i feel realy sorry for you. if i where in your shoes i would go to the police but as i can understand its probably not as simple and easy as it sounds x if you need anynody to speek to message me and ill be there for you x

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A male reader, nick6789 United States +, writes (23 April 2009):

man ill answer the question go to the police tell them that there raping and beeting you and im sorry

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A male reader, ask sweeney :) United Kingdom +, writes (11 August 2008):

ask sweeney :) agony auntlisten to me bbe im really understanding as a person, i hope your ok now at the moment, and u really should tell police, i am a mature 15 yr old young man my name is bill sweeney and i feel that i could really help you as a person. if you need anything comment bk to me, if you have msn PLEASE add me on this e mail adress [email address blocked] and we can talk more and be friends. i rele hope that your ok atm no one deservs wt uve been through and i bet your a beautiful person at heart please add my e mail adress so we can talk more often, i really WANT TO help you as a person, until then take care of yourself and i hope your ok, ( im not religious but ill be praying for you ) i hope your ok

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008):

honey i dont mean 2 sound demanding but u should have reported this to the police a LONG time ago.

Y would u let this happen? wher is ur mum hunny?

The police will do anything to make sure that ur safe.

Tell them wat ur uncle and dad have done tell them how they treat u!

This is just terribal.

As soon as u read my message, call the police and tell them everything.

I hope this helps, good luck.

xox

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A female reader, danielle rudolph United States +, writes (23 December 2007):

danielle rudolph agony auntSweetheart you have to report this now. So you and him can get help, trust me and take my advice okay.

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A female reader, cuttieicy Philippines +, writes (3 June 2007):

cuttieicy agony auntreport it to the police. They deserve to go to jail.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007):

hi there im sorry to hear what happen to you let me tell you a lil secret of mine i was molested by my uncle as a lil girl it went on for three years i was 5 when it started and i never told anyone because i thought it was my fault i thought i was in the wrong but im going to tell you your not in the wrong i didnt tell anyone until i was 13 and when i told i found out that he did it to 3 of my other cousins as well and around the same time he was doing it to me. but when my mother went to try to tell the police and get him behind bars the police said it was over 5 years that the insident happened and with the statue of limitations law they couldnt do anything so i have to see him everytime i go visit my family and it kills me that he acts like nothing happened listen to me you need to tell someone besides us the police your mother a neighbor a friends mother someone or theyll never stop and youll always feel bad but know its not your fault its because there no good for nothing men and they need to be behind bars i know you may feel embrassed but you need to tell someone before they do it again or they do it to someone esle or they may already be doin it to someone esle and there just like you thinking there wrong and to scared to tell but you need to stand up for yourself its going to be hard but it better to have someone help you like a friend or a friends parent or your own mother even the police. you need to tell.really its not right what there doing.please tell someone please!!!and youll never get over what has happened to you but you can get past it and live a good life but if you have to see them itll be even harder get them behind bars where they belong!!!GOOD LUCK!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007):

Hi! In a Despreate Position. I too was orally raped as a young child, Yes, Us men do also get raped. The best advice that I can give you is just this. All of those who said you need to go to the police, have given you the best advice anyone can give. So, Please take their advice,as the sexual abuse will just go on and on. And you are the only who can stop it. So please listen to their loving, caring advice. DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! PLEASE! PLEASE! PLEASE! And you needn't feel ashamed over the sexual abuse, that you have gone through. And which will continue if you don't put a stop to it. No! No! No!you wouldn't be better off dead. Please, Put them where they cannot continue to abuse you or anyone else.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007):

please sweetheart u have 2 report this. no one deserves this sort of treatment and it has to stop. it is nothin u have done and is in no way at all ur fault. i no it is so hard but u have to find the strength to stop this for good. if u open up people will be able to help u. i wish u all the luck and courage in the world x x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007):

Please go and seek help immediately from someone who you trust, say a teacher at school, the school counsellor, your doctor......who can then offer you support when you go to the police and will hopefully help you with gaining the right support from an emotional (counselling) to practical (accommodation, etc) viewpoint.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007):

hi sweetheart, no-one is going to laugh at you, ive been where you are now and i understand what you are feeling. But you have to understand this is not your fault and nothing you have done has caused this to happen. I know how scary this is but please find the courage to phone childline or the NSPCC, both are freephone numbers so they wont show up on the phone bill. whoever answers the phone will make sure your safe and they will not judge you. I did and know im safe and stronger than ever before it took all the strength i had but i know you can do it. all my love xx childline: 0800 1111 NSPCC: 0808 800 5000.

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A male reader, DV1 United States +, writes (27 May 2007):

DV1 agony auntRape is a horrible thing. You must go to the policemen. The longer you wait, the less DNA evidence there will be to prove it. Go to the police immediately. Then seek counseling, and find a family member or friend that you can stay with.

If you need advice, or a friend to vent to, message me, and I'll get back to you A.S.A.P.

DV1

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A female reader, candy00s United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2007):

candy00s agony auntI know its scary but you have to go to the police about this. They can contact social services.

You should not be going through this. im scared for you safety.

Is there anyone that you can tell and talk to about this??? a teacher or a friend anyone?

please dont let this carry on please tell someone.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2007):

kenny agony auntThis really upset me reading about this post, you sound like a nice person, and you have been going through quite an ordeal.

The first thing i am going to say is that you MUST report your Dad and your Uncle to the police, they can't get away with this sort of behaviour, and you are still a minor. Are there other members in your family that you can confide in, Your Mother, Brother, Sister, aunt ect who can steer you in the right direction.

I think your Uncle & your Dad are wicked wicked people and i can't stress enough that you must report them. Please don't feel you are alone there is help out there for you, even give childline a call for some advice.

If you need any further advice please don't hesitate to mail me.

All the best x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007):

oh my.

what you need to do is go straight to someone that could help you, and remember it's not your fault. you can get help and people will believe you and help you. what your dad and uncle have done is incest and it will be treated as rape and incest.

if you are still in school go and talk to someone, if not go to the doctors.

you need to get help from this. who knows what could happen to you if you don't.

sleeping in the woods won't help your position a number of things could happen to you out there.

go to a relative or if that won't help. go to a youth help organisation.

well that's all I could think about at the moment to help you. hope you will get better and if you get help it will be better in the long run.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007):

Go to the police and get them locked away! Thats all I can say really. Harsh but true.

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