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writes:Dear Cupid:My cousin's ex boyfriend, Joe (name changed)works with my fiance and he is constantly telling my boyfriend lies about me. I dont know what to do. I am getting extremely frustrated. Help!!! To make a long story straight, my cousin is a liar.She tryed to talk to my fiance once, behind my back, and we're no longer friends.We dont assosciate.She will tell one in a minute, and Im thinking Joe is jealous of the relationship that me and my fiance have. Like a month ago he told my fiance that he saw me and my cousin (Joe's ex) at Sonic's. Why would I be there with my cousin if me and her dont even talk anymore. Then today (1-14-2010), Joe told my fiance that he saw my mom somewhere and she asked him what kind of purpose does my fiance have in relation to being with me? He (Joe) does not even know my mom. He has never met her. I have never even really spoken to Joe. I dont know why he acts like this. I dont know him on a personal level. Everytime he tells my fiance something, my fiance believes him and always acts mad with me until the end of the day; then asks me about it. Then I tell him, and he gets cheered up. He (my fiance) said that he doesnt make up this stuff to see how I will react. So my question to you is... how should I handle this he said/ she said bull crap?? Should I just let it go or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow my fiance says he trusts me now. He says he knows Joe was full of crap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just wanna thank all of those who provided me with advice/opinions. Thanks!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): talk to your fiance. nothing you can do about your cousins's ex he's a grown man and will continue to lie. The solution to your problenm lies in the ability of your fiance to ignore joe and trust you!
I find it very sad that your fiance continues to listen to joe and get mad at you and gets in a mood until you reassure him, your fiance's being an idiot! don't put up with it.
He either trusts you or not! and if he doesn't then in no way do you too need to get married at this point in time!
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reader, vanillafrost  +, writes (15 January 2010):
 I really dislike people telling lies about me behind my back. They will always exist.. Nothing to do about it. Even if you asked them to stop. They won't.
I would have a very good conversation with your fiancee. Make it VERY CLEAR to him that he is lying! The reason why he is lying and if he ever talk about you again your fiancee should just ignore it. If your relationship with your fiancee strong he must trust YOU on this. I hope this is helpfull..
Good luck!
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