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writes:This is probably the most stupid jealousy question you've heard!But anyway, student-teacher-whatever-you-want-to-call them. I'm in one. One of my teachers is just the nicest guy etc. etc. We get on quite well, and we can have a laugh pretty easily. Before everyone has a go at me, I know this can't go anywhere, but I dream anyway...So, one of my close friends also likes him too! It started as quite trivial, just looking at him. But now it's turned kind of spiteful, with her trying to make me jealous. She spent half an hour after school with him the other night and couldn't stop bragging the details.This does make me jealous, of course! I hate it when they talk, and when she's spoken to him without me there. I feel like while nothing will happen with me and him, he might go off with her or something!This sounds really sad on reflection... but has anyone had this happen? How can I stop feeling like this and just accept nothing can happen? Ta for reading my rambles...
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady +, writes (27 December 2009):
Right well--- for one if anything 'weird' i.e. him touching her, cuddling, brushing up against her anything of this sort is mentioned to you i would urge for you to report it. Secondly, if you want your teacher to be 'put off' your friend as such thats quite easy. Just subtly mention every so often how she talks constantly about him etc.. etc.. you'll know if hes a weirdo if that interests him coz for any normal bloke that would scare them shitless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): I do understand your problem. Tbh it wouldn't surprise me too much if your friend was saying she liked him too to see your reaction, and she's bragging on about the details, yet again, to see your reaction.
If she really does like him like you do, then you should just stop trying to wind each other up, if she really does like him, if probably annoys her everytime you go and talk to him, she just doesn't go posting questions about it on here :)
& in either case, nothing can happen, he's a teacher ladies, and you're students, he is in a position of trust, if he does make a move on any of you ladies, he's disrespecting this.
So, move on ... mix with people your age ... and the qualities you find in your teacher, find them in other guys, I'm sure you two will find someone special :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): He doesn't like her. He doesn't like you. He probably knows you both have crushes on him and finds it very amusing. Nothing is going to happen with any of you. Being jealous about this is ridiculous.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (6 December 2009):
 Unless your teacher wants to lose his job and face some serious criminal charges then I highly doubt he will be interested in your friend!
You seem to understand that nothing will ever happen between you and your teacher - so just try and understand that nothing will ever happen between your friend and the teacher either so try not to feel jealous or let it bother you.
What you are feeling is very normal - it is just a teenage crush on an attractive teacher, most girls (and some guys) go through this at some point. As with all crushes, it eventually wears off and you will lose interest - so just try and keep yourself occupied in the mean time and you will forget about him soon.
As for your friend - if she is just trying to make you jealous then she is being very immature and silly! Dont let it get to you - the more it bothers you the more she knows what she is doing is affecting you so she will carry on doing it. Why not pretend you have a crush on some other guy in your school (not a teacher) and talk about him all the time - then she will stop trying to flirt with your teacher and she will move on. She wont bother bragging about spending time with him if she knows you are no longer interested!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 December 2009):
So? The point is, he's a teacher so nothing can happen. All right, you have a crush, but let's face it, if she thinks that she's going to get anywhere, then she is a misguided girl. Just enjoy your crush, make sure you're meeting and seeing other people and you'll get over him. He can't go off with her without going to prison, losing his job and ruining his life. Nothing can ever happen with him, and it never will between any of you. It's a crush, it can't be more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Please don't let your jealousy over something that cannot be ruin a friendship.
Although she is behaving unreasonably, is it worth losing her?
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