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writes:I am a 19 year old girl and I have a major crush on my brothers best friend. He's 22. I really like him. He's smart, funny and very charming. My problem is I don't know how to make him see me that way. I have known him for around 5 years now and he's at all of our family functions and comes around quite a bit. We joke around alot but it could be just kidding around with best friends little sister for him. Yes we talk but it's always general topics and such. I really like him and I don't know what to do about it. Plus he's my brothers best friend so that sort of makes me feel bad. My brother's the type who would be livid. My crush is very nice to me but I don't know if I'm pretty enough, and on the heavier side. Please reply, I Really like this guy:/ Thank you in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2013): I disagree with Ms. Cupid.
Again, leave him alone!!! Keep your little school-girl crush to yourself, before you create a family problem. He is a friend, older, and the reason so many people are around when he is there. It is to keep YOU out of trouble.
He is an adult. You are not. You can ignore my advice, and you will learn the hard way.
You are just infatuated with the fact he is older. It happens with girls your age all the time.
IT IS your brother's business, as long as you are approaching HIS friends that are older than you, and you're still living at home with your parents.
Why don't you ask your parents how they would feel about you dating your brother's best friend? Ask your mom how she would approach him if she were you. Then you can't go wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2013): A crush is something that easily happens for people your age. You see some great personality traits in a your family friend, you're growing up, and you're beginning to attach feelings to a guy who represents things you like most in a guy. It really isn't the guy, so much as there's just something about him.He has kept a respectable distance because he sees you like extended family. My bro's kid sister. If he was interested in any other way, he would not kid around. He would let you know.The thing with crushes, is that they do pass, and you move on. You see something good in him. You're young and impressionable. He treats you well; but just as he would a younger sister. Don't start flirting. Things will get awkward. Your brother will go into protection mode.Your brother would only be upset, because he doesn't want his friends taking advantage of his younger sister. Your parents place some degree of trust in his judgement, when bringing his older male friend's around you. He can't control your feelings. His job is to protect them.I suggest that you keep your crush to yourself. He likes you only in a family sense. If he felt more, he would let you know. You might get your feelings hurt, trying to change things from anything but his being a loyal friend of the family. If you try to push things in another direction, your brother will make sure that you see less of him.Most importantly, crushes are 95% imaginary. They are not true feelings. They are just warm feelings we develop in our heads for people we know we can't have in reality.You look up to your brother's best friend. He has always been there;, and if you behave, he'll still be there when your crush wears off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is we meet when there are alot of people around so it would be pretty weird if I asked him something like that out of the blue. So if you could tell me a way to get te conversation then it would be pretty cool. Thank you again:)
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (2 April 2013):
 Why would your brother be "livid" if his best friend goes out with you?
He may be your brother's best friend, but its none of your brother's business who he dates.
If you do get together with him, let things develop at their own pace and take it nice and slow!
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reader, Ms. Cupid  +, writes (2 April 2013):
Hi. :)
You just need to be yourself. Ask him what he likes about a girl, make him laugh, and like I said, just be yourself. :)
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