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writes:just a quick moan, fed up with my younger brother.Hes always been a bit high strung, on his high horse, strong opinionated etc but hes such a hypocrit!Last year he got a 30k pay off from work and pretty much blew the lot on daft nights out, cloths etc! everyone had to run around him helping him out with money including myself until he got a new job, im a single mom of 1 with another on the way and still i managed to lend him 150 to tie him over. i didnt moan about it, just accepted that im family i should help out too, as much a resented it. to me thats alot of money but he did give it me back the next month like he said he would.Now id just moved house and id asked for a couple favours, trip to the hospital for a scan , bit if help moving things etc, he said no he was busy everytime.This weekend iv fell a bit short on cash and asked my mom for help, she said she couldnt but she went and asked my brother on my behalf and to my shock he said he could spare 50 til next month. i thought great! Then i messaged him this morning, asking when i could pick it up, i only wanted a time.The conversation went like this, its shocking:me- "thanks for sorting me out bro when ok to pick it up?"him- "Im away with work tonight and im seeing the gf first so dont come round get it off her later"me- "Ok so when can i get it or can you drop it off on ur way to hers?"him-"shes coming to mine, but dont come round, get it off her later"me-"ah ok tell her to message me when shes in after youve gone, dont worry i wouldnt hang around iv few things to do myself"him-"oi you cheeky f*@ and er do you want the money? iv gota long drive tonight, mouth off again and you wont f@* and $ing get it right?"me-"just leave it then i dont want it. i wasnt being cheeky at all so come off your high horse.just wanted a time without your life plans and excuses and your attitude! leave it its not worth the hassle just dont come to me again for help im not interested"him-" F you, your a twat you always give the mouth, i cant run around after you im working all time now, you aint having the money now F you , your just a bitch"me-"i said i dont want it, so leave it yeh. i havnt said a bad word, and you come out with this? stay out of my life iv enough on at the moment. im not having you think you can talk to me like that in order to get help from you, i owe you nothing , leave me alone"him-"F you, your a bitch expecting everyone to run around after you and everyone knows it! il happily take your silent treeatment you need me more than i need you!me "take care"him "F you"[end]Im sorry but im 8 months pregnant and have a child already , a new house and my life to live, im under alot of pressure at the moment, and im a bit hormonal too. But this has just sent me over the edge im furious! this is my only sibling talking to me like this?Il never help him again. and now iv also got the brunt of my mom finding out! she will side with himshe always does. Im going to be the ungrateful so and so for telling him to leave it. but im not taking on debt to him while hes talking to me like that the amount of times he swore at me was unbelievable wasnt it?! what do you guys think to that? opionions on what i should do now please?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 July 2012):
 Honestly, brother or not, I wouldn't talk to ever again. And I'm serious. I would never help him out again, not ask him for help.
Basically, I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire!
Sorry, I doubt you will ever see the money you "lend" him.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (27 July 2012):
 What a horrible, selfish, extremely rude and uncaring dolt you have for a brother!
Abella is quite right: don't lend him another penny ever again! If your Mother finds out, you should tell her exactly what he said to you, all those put-downs and insults. Hopefully, she knows her son well enough to know what he's like and she'll give him short shrift.
Good luck!
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 July 2012):
 Never borrow another brass razoo from him.
And never lend him another cent either.
He may be your brother, but no one needs to endure this.
Selfish, rude, arrogant, abusive. Who would ever want to spend time with this legend (to himself only)
He is the hypocrite and not averse to bullying his own sister.
He is the shallow uncaring lacking-in-empathy bore.
He is an unsuitable role model for anyone of any age in your family.
Blood is not thicker than water in some families.
He has ice in his veins
And he is arrogant and real waste of space.
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