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My boyfriend's dad fancies me and it makes me extremely uncomfortable!

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Question - (8 October 2013) 8 Answers - (Newest, 9 October 2013)
A female United States age 22-25, *nannaMoon writes:

I first met my boyfriend's dad when i was 14, i didn't give much attention to him, but he stared at me even then but not as much when i turned 15..

he tries to touch my shoulder a lot and even my breast, he constantly stares at my ass and flirts with me.

when we're alone he gives me unusual amount of attention which makes me extremely uncomfortable, thankfully i havent seen him in 2 months, but will again soon in december or jan which im sure he'll try to come on me harder cuz my parents arent around this time..

hes 53 to make it even worse.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2013):

try and talk to him about it and how you don't want a relationship with him and kindly request him to stop touching you. if that does not work talk to your parents about it, if it goes to far talk to the police (might be a bit risky if you want to keep your boyfriend)

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A female reader, KC12 United States +, writes (8 October 2013):

KC12 agony aunt1) Tell your boyfriend you are uncomfortable around his father, and want no further contact. Maybe there have been other girls that have felt the same way..and I'm sure he'll understand and respect your feelings. Avoid any contact with him.

2) talk with your family and friends. Let them know what's going on.

3) contact the police if this persists...You are under the age of consent, and that makes bf's father a hebefile! There may be already be other complaints against him.

Raising your voice raises AWARENESS against people like him.

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A female reader, Bonfaith United Kingdom +, writes (8 October 2013):

If this man is making you feel uncomfortable and making innapropriete advances at you my advise would be to stay well away from him. If you are under 16 it is illegal for an older person to sexually engage themselves with you. This doesn't have to necessarily be sexual contact this can include just making you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps telling your boyfriend would help you as he may understand and may be able to talk to his dad. He should respect that you are feeling uncomfortable around his dad and if he can ell you then he should. If you don't want to tell him you could always turn to your family or a friend. Talking about it will help you get it off your chest and may help you realise what you need to do. If yor boyfriends dad continues with his advances you could also contact local authorities if you are concerned. By contacting police, gp, or social services you may he protecting other people from this man if you truly believe he may be a threat to you or others.

Hope this helps :)

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (8 October 2013):

Honeypie agony auntTell your parents, tell your BF and if he is married and does ANYTHING inappropriate TELL his wife. In fact YELL at him to keep his nasty paws of your ass/breasts/whatever.

Dirty old bastard!

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (8 October 2013):

Tisha-1 agony auntTell your parents! Predators like this rely on your silence. If you speak up, you will protect yourself and other girls as well.

Tell your parents.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2013):

At your age this is has got to be very uncomfortable and very difficult to know what to do. This adult male is big time in the wrong and does not seem to understand boundaries or have any sense of what is appropriate or not. Please make sure that someone is aware of what is going on.

Try to be strong and it's going to take a lot of guts because he is an adult you have to say this to, but you have got to be straight with him and tell him that it makes you very uncomfortable when he touches you, so please don't.

Second, do whatever it takes to make sure that you are never alone with this man. Be cordial and polite, but keep a distance.

You might also want to consider, not going to his home at all. Just have your boyfriend come to your home only.

If he does anything again that you asked him not to, make sure you tell your boyfriend, your parents, a trusted teacher at school, whomever. He is taking advantage of you and your youth and he is a pervert. If he makes ANY kind of sexual or physically abusive advances,you call the police immediately, if he makes you feel threatened or scares you, get the hell out of there. It's not okay, you have to protect yourself and in no way think what he is doing is normal, appropriate or acceptable.

If you have a phone that records/takes short video, pretend that you are texting or something if he starts doing/saying anything and leave it on, even if there is no video at least you have proof of what he is saying and you can play it back and do what is necessary.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (8 October 2013):

chigirl agony auntTell him to back off. You need to stand up for yourself. He is a pig, but the sooner you learn to speak up the better. Be firm. It is your body, you have every right to not want to be touched. Telll him to not touch you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2013):

This man is disgusting. Never let yourself be alone with him... Always be with your BF or say you need to go to the toilet (if it has a lock)

If he dose come on to you then stand up to him and tell alto take his hands off you or you WILL scream.

I would say tell someone but I'm guessing you don't want you lose your BF. So keep your self safe. Just make failure ypur no alone with him.

If he is 53 and you are 15.. He's a pervert.

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