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writes:hi every one i just want to know if any one out there can help me with my bf the thing is my bf dont talk that much and i dont know why that is really he will text me all the time and tell me how he feels about me but when it comes to talking to me on the phone he wont tell me how he feels about me and i dont know why? I know that he loves me very much he is like 18 and his name is Rib and i am Rose and i am only 15 but I am just worried about that, he doesn't tell me over the phone how he feels about me so if there is anyone out there that can help me please write back to me ok
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reader, AskEve +, writes (29 April 2007):
 Some guys are "talkers" and some guys are "thinkers". Your boyfriend is obviously a thinker and texts you how he feels because he has the time to think about it. I really wouldn't worry about it. He's with you, you know he loves you even although he doesn't say it person to person. I would just enjoy your time with him. As you both grow older and more mature and if you are still both together then the words WILL come...
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reader, beautifulllove  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 your young and so is he so he just probably a little scared about what you'll respond to how he feels and some guys can say what they feel better in words and writting than actually saying them. he might get tounge tied but you just got to ask him why and see what he says just be careful no one wants to get hurt and your young so live life and let love come natrual believe me if you are willing to wait for it all will be fine.good luck
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reader, maverick +, writes (28 April 2007):
 Hello Rose (that's a really cool name),Generally guys do have difficuly in communicating feelings. Particularly if its a feeling that will make them feel vulnerable or less masculine.These are main reasons I can think of why a guy wouldn't say "I love you":- difficulty in communicating feelings (feeling vulnerable or less masculine)- avoiding being "conquered" by a girl (a girl has to strive to get him to say it, so holds her interest in him. Works for me)- guy believes it will still keep an emotional-distance betwen you and him (so you waon't be too attached or make any commitments so able to walk away without hurting you)- he may not love you enitrelyYou say your bf don't talk that much that seems to strike me as a communication issue there. This one's tricky.Just bear one thing in mind though. From your point of view - does it matter if he says he loves you? In case you're wondering "I love you" is a great positive-validation line. You want to hear it because it re-assures you and confirms your view on things. You can also guage someone "feeling" towards you by how they treat you. Hold hands? Hug? Cuddle? Kiss? Smile?Remember "I love you" is just one indicator of love - not the be all and all of it.
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