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Hello,

I'm Maverick. I'm a single, (soon to be) 24 year old guy in Bedfordshire, England (UK) working in Facilities Managment, it's boring yes but it pays well so I can't argue.

My work has always seen me deal with people (often very difficult and upset people) but I enjoy resloving issues - and I guess I wouldn't be able to survive by not being in a problem solving role.

Coming from a very crap childhood and upbringing, High school and college just made things worse. I was very depressed with low self esteem at the end of it all - I didn't think I was good enough to go to university (or anything else for that matter). So I ended up getting a dogsbody job for huge medical company. It turned out to be the best thing that happend to me. It made me a better person. Slowly but surely I've worked my way up.

Over a period of time I started to rebuild myself the way I wanted and I became a lot happier for it. I developed (and still have) a passion for studying communication, body language, psychology, relationships, flirting, and conflict resolution.

My passions include football, exercise, table tennis, music (I think I've realy gotten into Emo - strange for a business man eh?), japanese/korean films, video games and socializing.

I hope I can pass on bits and pieces of info to make others feel better as I know how depressing things can be. One thing I always strive to do is always make a point to back up everything I say with some evidence. I am always happy to mention the books, groups, websites and charities I know that could help.

If you are not happy with anything I say then please send me a message about it. I welcome all constructive criticism.

Thank you for taking time to read this and please take care. M

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A teenage girl touched me was it molestation?

Q.   Okay I'm pretty new to this but something is really bugging me. There's this girl in my class she's a co op student. She looks at this girl in my. I got really moodie one day than I walked out of the class room. I call her by her nickname witch is ...

A.   19 March 2008: I must disagree with "Ask oldersister". I would like "Ask oldersister" to say this sentence "The fact HE didn't stop when you asked HIM is very rude and inconsiderate". If this was a male-female incident it would be treated more seriously - howeve... (read in full...)

A teenage girl touched me was it molestation?

Q.   Okay I'm pretty new to this but something is really bugging me. There's this girl in my class she's a co op student. She looks at this girl in my. I got really moodie one day than I walked out of the class room. I call her by her nickname witch is ...

A.   19 March 2008: I must disagree with "Ask oldersister". I would like "Ask oldersister" to say this sentence "The fact HE didn't stop when you asked HIM is very rude and inconsiderate". If this was a male-female incident it would be treated more seriously - howeve... (read in full...)

A teenage girl touched me was it molestation?

Q.   Okay I'm pretty new to this but something is really bugging me. There's this girl in my class she's a co op student. She looks at this girl in my. I got really moodie one day than I walked out of the class room. I call her by her nickname witch is ...

A.   19 March 2008: Hello, From what you say, she did touch you inappropriately - you asked her to stop and she did not. You say you wanted to yell and stop multiple times which shows this is not something you wanted. The touching was not consentual (done without ... (read in full...)

Should I ask her out as a friend or on a date??

Q.   hey, i need some advice, i like this girl we have been friends since last year, but we have not met up since last year how should i go about asking her out on a date or just as friends??? please help! ...

A.   17 March 2008: Hello there mate, Firstly don't ask her out. "Invite" her out... "Do want to go to the cafe?" Is either going to get a yes or a no. The no is scary part. If she says no, then well its a form of rejeaction as she doens't want to spend time with ... (read in full...)

My sister gets away with everything and has no responsibilities and it makes me so mad!

Q.   right well this isnt a relationship question but i am desperate for some help, you see i am 15, i will be 16 in may, im due to sit exams already sat some and tonns and tonns of coursework that needs doing as most teens about to leave school do. ...

A.   19 February 2008: Hello there, Firstly thank you for your post - that was a very honest bit of writing there, you should be proud of yourself for coming out with it. And don't be sorry at all for writing this. It sounds like you have become the responsible adul... (read in full...)

It's been a month since we've been going out, do you think it's a problem we have not kissed yet?

Q.   Well how should I start... I first met this girl my junior year of high school (last year) through a friend, but I was having other problems dealing with someone I fell for but she rejected me badly and moved to Florida. We didn't know each other's ...

A.   17 February 2008: Hello mate, Firstly from what you say, you sound like quite a thoughtful boyfriend and that will get far in life. No it's not a bad thing to not have kissed after a month. You are sympathetic to how she feels which is a great quality in a boy... (read in full...)

My ex has a new girlfriend but I still think of him...

Q.   I'm 16 and last year i split up with my boyfriend we were together for 2 years. He has a new girlfriend now and i am still single, though i am seeing other guys. i still think i like my ex and i believe i did love him, i don't know whether i am just ...

A.   16 February 2008: Hello there, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. Don't worry though many people have been through the same kind of thing. I do not know what the exact reasons were for you two splitting up, but there seems to be something unreso... (read in full...)

Is she playing hard to get?

Q.   hello, i just need some advice. well theres a girl iv liked since last summer, i offen smile and look whenever i see her, she sometimes smiles bk, but iv never had the chance to say anything to her thro being shy or not knowing how to break into a c...

A.   16 February 2008: Hey mate, As the brilliant song by The Audition goes "Don't Be Too Hard On Yourself"! First, relax. And smile - you got a Valentine's card to her with your number in it and she responded positively by sending you messages back. That is a pretty... (read in full...)

I slept with my boyfriend's best mate!

Q.   Please help me, I slept with my boyfriend's best mate at a party at his house, I love my boyfriend very much but I think I'm in love with his best mate and I think about him a lot but I love my boyfriend to bits as well. My friends have told me I ...

A.   15 February 2008: This is a very unpleasant situation you've gotten yourself into, so please think carefully about what next. And unlike, "duskyrowe" I won't pass judgement or make you feel bad. Firstly, are you unhappy with your current boyfriend? Specific... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be attracted to girls as well as boys?

Q.   I am 11 years old and so is my best friend, we are in the same year 7 class and I've known her for 2 years (but we weren't best friends until we were in the same class). The thing is, I'm worried that I like her too much. you know, people have ...

A.   15 February 2008:  Hello Jelly (that's actually a pretty cool name), Don't worry, it's ok to like boys and girls. First of all there is nothing wrong with being attracted to boys, girls or both. In case you're wondering: - Being a girl and liking other boys on... (read in full...)

Do you think I could win her over or not??

Q.   Hey. Today I told the girl I like how I feel. I thought she liked me but when I told her her response was "i like you but not in that way. You're like my best friend. I mean thing change and maybe feelings change. I just want to stay freinds ...

A.   14 February 2008:  Yes you can try to win her over. Everyone seems to believe you are supposed to stand in the middle of a car park or something and people will walk up to and decide whether or not they like, hate or attracted to you. You do realise you can a... (read in full...)

I am confused and disappointed at this guys lack of attention

Q.   Hi, and thanks for deciding to read this. Today is valentines day and I'm not the lovey dovey type normally but I think it's contagious coz I really wanted to ask this boy in my class out... and I haven't asked a boy out for years and I don't know...

A.   14 February 2008: Hello there? I take it you must be in year 7? Don't feel bad, my love-life was a mess in in year 7 but things will get better. And don't worry the post was fine. Now I know I'm going to sound like a really old fart, but you are still young and ... (read in full...)

Wondering whether my friend likes another friend better than me if they keep calling each other, should I be worried?

Q.   hey my friend just told me a couple of days ago that they talk on the fone almost everyday. he never calls me. i felt really upset and now im wondering whether he likes my friend better than me if they keep calling each other. they make ...

A.   12 February 2008: Hello there, It's alright. It would be unfair to post answers and not respond if you had follow up questions. I understand your situation much more clearly now. The best of course of action for yourself would be to speak with him directly about... (read in full...)

Wondering whether my friend likes another friend better than me if they keep calling each other, should I be worried?

Q.   hey my friend just told me a couple of days ago that they talk on the fone almost everyday. he never calls me. i felt really upset and now im wondering whether he likes my friend better than me if they keep calling each other. they make ...

A.   11 February 2008: Hello again, Thanks for added info. In the instance of you being in a commited relationship, or at least looking like you two are - it would come down to a case clarifying what your time together should be like. First you should be clear what... (read in full...)

I have tried dating sites but they don't help, I want to settle down but I'm extremely shy and work all the time! any suggestions?

Q.   Ok, here is the thing i just turned 26 and im starting to get to the point where i want to settle down, find a nice woman to spend my life with that shouldnt be to hard right. The problem is i am extremely shy. so i don't talk to women. i dont know ...

A.   11 February 2008: It is very daunting and I've been in the same situation as well. ONLINE DATING SITES First of all don't give up on dating sites. Two things to get you going on a dating site. 1. Get a oicture of you doing something interesting, or somewh... (read in full...)

How can I avoid leaking before I come?

Q.   i seem to get wet or precome when me and my wife have foreplay or begin sex. how can i avoid this?...

A.   11 February 2008:  The liquid you're referring to is usually called the "pre-ejaculate" or "Cowper's fluid" (since it's made by the Cowper glands in your penis). This is perfectly normal and shows that your reproductive organs are stimulated and in workin... (read in full...)

There are two girls and one guy what do I do.

Q.   what to do? alrite i liek love this guy named "jake" (fake). n he loves me but he is just recently become single. i toldhim i would date him again this past monday (3days ago). n i kno he still loves me. ok...hold on hold on. lemme start abo...

A.   10 February 2008:  At this moment, you could explore your options. Dating is where you would typically go out and spend time with other people intimately, to get to know them and see if you would be good for a longer term relationship with deeper commitments. A... (read in full...)

Any advice for picking up sorority girls at fraternity parties?

Q.   hi all I just received and accepted a bid to join the a very prestige fraternity, and im starting the initiation process. I have had alot of fun at the rush parties, where we usually invite another sorority over. I have alot of fun hanging out ...

A.   10 February 2008:  You know, I bet some one is going to say "Just be youself"... just you wait and see. Lol. That's awful advice. Nah that won't work. You need to be your confident, calm and funny self. Try a few things.... - Say hello to everyone - even gu... (read in full...)

Wondering whether my friend likes another friend better than me if they keep calling each other, should I be worried?

Q.   hey my friend just told me a couple of days ago that they talk on the fone almost everyday. he never calls me. i felt really upset and now im wondering whether he likes my friend better than me if they keep calling each other. they make ...

A.   10 February 2008:  It is horrible feeling like you've been left out. I can sympathise. It maybe that the two of them are developing a deeper relationship or friendship - possibly being more intimate. Developing a level of intimacy or taking friendships furth... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend does not know I acted so as to please another man only because this threatened me he would harm him... or us both!

Q.   Hi. Well I think I've got a huge question... I think about 3 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up. I took it really hard at first and then I just sort went on with things and didn't really care...because we weren't talking to each other... ab...

A.   7 February 2008:  Hey there, I'm not sure why he would respond like that. It could be that he has been hurt by the chain of events and wants to distance himself from the hurt. It is very unpleasant to respond in that way. I have to admit when I was 15 I was... (read in full...)

Her passion for me has waned...could it be our previous friendship getting in the way??

Q.   I moved across the country to move in with my best friend of 4 years after we had lost touch for about 2 years, then met up again and fell in love. I had always been physically attracted to her as long as I've known her. I don't think she had been...

A.   27 January 2008: Hello again mate, Hopefully you are feeling a bit better about your situation. Since you asked about building intimacy, there are other things you can do. One of the most drastic but probably most helpful - and scariest things for you both wou... (read in full...)

I'm in the money -- but I need advice

Q.   I have about $30,000 in credit card debt. I have made minimum payments for about ten years and my interest rates are high. Now I have inherited enough money to pay off the credit cards. What steps should I take? Should I simply pay the amount owed? ...

A.   26 January 2008: Hello there, You should ideally clear you debt as soon as possible. The better option is pay in a lump sum and get it clear. I'll go into a bit of maths here but this will explain how companies make their money out of you. As an example -... (read in full...)

Her passion for me has waned...could it be our previous friendship getting in the way??

Q.   I moved across the country to move in with my best friend of 4 years after we had lost touch for about 2 years, then met up again and fell in love. I had always been physically attracted to her as long as I've known her. I don't think she had been...

A.   25 January 2008: Hello there, Firstly in response to your point about best friends becoming long-term lovers, yes. BUT, you cannot carry on being a friend. You say you skipped on a courting period which is ok but you have to be intimate now. And I do mean romantic... (read in full...)

If I can see myself with another man should I still be with my boyfriend??

Q.   I am happy in my current relationship, which is a serious one, but for a month i have had this other guy on my mind. We work together and for some reason i feel like i could actually cheat on my boyfriend with him. I have no idea if he likes me...

A.   25 January 2008: Hello there, The answer to this this question largely depends on the nature and state of your relationship with your current boyfriend. In short, you are asking two different questions tha should be answered in order. - Should I leave/cheat... (read in full...)

What do I do if he likes me?

Q.   Hey, I fancy this boy and I'm not sure if he fancies me. I asked him to a dance "as friends" but I actually like him. He said yes and we had a lot of fun. We are friends, and we do theatre together so I talk to him at play practice. The other day he ...

A.   20 January 2008: It seems like there is a level of attraction betwee you two. Laura1318 is right, just take your time and spend time together.... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend does not know I acted so as to please another man only because this threatened me he would harm him... or us both!

Q.   Hi. Well I think I've got a huge question... I think about 3 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up. I took it really hard at first and then I just sort went on with things and didn't really care...because we weren't talking to each other... ab...

A.   20 January 2008: Hey there, I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. This sounds like a horrible weight to carry over you. I think in this instance, you should talk to friends, family and yes your ex-boyfriend as well. You sound like you've been thro... (read in full...)

What advice can I give my friends?

Q.   My friends have a problem. Okay,theyr'e both 17(well the guy is about to be 18) T(the guy)and A(the girl) are both virgens. They love eachother ALOT and have been dating since they were 13.So,they both talked to eachother(and me) about ...

A.   20 January 2008: Hello there I can sympathise a lot with their situation. Sex education growing=up in the UK was alright - we knew waht things did, but no-one told use how use them. As embarassing as it maybe I would strongly recommend them purchasing a boo... (read in full...)

Is having a heart-shaped ass a good thing?

Q.   he said I have a nice heart shaped a** I asked him what this meant and he said its hard to explain, but its a good thing. can anyone tell me what this means?...

A.   20 January 2008: I've said this before to a girl I knew and she took it as a funny compliment. Basically, for her, I meant her a** cheeks were nicely rounded at the top, and then where the ass cheeks come down to the back of the thighs they gradually and diagnoll... (read in full...)

Why does my ex wear my old clothes?

Q.   Hello Out there, just a quick question. My ex left me for someone else 7 months ago and I am over her but during the 7 months I noticed she's been wearing my tops that I no longer wanted. I bumped into her at a bar and she wore my vest. I bumped ...

A.   20 January 2008: Hello mate. There could be a num,ber of reasons, they are comfortable? She has sentimental value in them? She misses you? She like the style of clothes? In any case, you don't know the meaning and you might be tourturing yourself thinking about th... (read in full...)

I can't seem to cum. How do I squirt in his face?

Q.   I've been masturbating ever since I was 12. I'll get to the point of orgasm, but I just cant catch it. I feel the "pee pee" sensation but I cant orgasm. I feel like I'm missing something. Ive been with my partner for 8 months, and I really wanna ...

A.   20 January 2008: Hello there, There are a few different ways of improving sexual satisfaction. The best method I found for my old girlfriend was to get her home from college, give her a bath and then a slow sensual massage (learned deep tissue massage and spent ti... (read in full...)

Can anyone tell me exactly what she means?

Q.   i round about asked this girl out. and she said she would get back to me about it as soon as she could. can someone shine some light on what she means? all she said was "i'll get back to you about wensday". because thats when i offered to buy he...

A.   9 May 2007: The easiest way to develop trust and ease offf any pressure they may feel, is to spend "convienient" time together. This will help make her feel comfortable around you. First if you are concerned about being blown-off don't! Abandon that date - y... (read in full...)

Guys, what type of undies do you like and how do you like her down there?

Q.   This is a question for the guys to anwser - only guys please! What kind of underwear do you prefer? Thongs, g-strings, boyshorts, french, bikini, granny?! And also, what do you prefer 'down there'? Bushy, trimmed, Brazilian (with a 'land...

A.   7 May 2007: Hmm... I guess I've never really given that much thought. I now realise that is an important thing I have never considered in my life! I like girls in thongs, g-strings, bikinis etc. I thik the tease of smaller knickers is very alluring... (read in full...)

She's not the dating type and has rejected a lot of guys..how can I ask her out without her saying no?

Q.   i went out with my mates. there's this girl. i've been told she's rejected alot of boys because she's not the dating time but she is so pretty. well i'm quite patient. today i talked alot to her today. i try and make the most of the day. but today...

A.   7 May 2007: Sounds like a challenge. Great I think you and I are going to get on famously. First up you are not going to ask her out... yet. And when you finally do... you won't "exactly" ask her out. First up, lets conmctrate on making sure your a desi... (read in full...)

Is my boss saying "no", but meaning "yes"?

Q.   Ok here goes!!!! Im in a bit of a pickle, I am totally in to my Boss. one of my friends told her that I like her and she is cool with it,and said she already knew. she is also one of my best friends. we spend alot of time together in and out of wo...

A.   7 May 2007: This is a very complicated situation. Regardless of anything else - from a professional point of view, puirsuing a relataionship with your boss is and will be seen as a conflict of interest and I cannot recommend it. There could be cries of ... (read in full...)

My sister is missing and my family lies to keep her disappearance a secret.

Q.   my sister is 19 and she left home without telling anyone. i was the last person to see her before she left and she didn't even say goodbye. i used to pick her up from work and on that particular day when i went to pick her up she just didn't show. i ...

A.   7 May 2007: Hello. My name is Munna and I wanted to let you know that I have been through the same thing although this happened to me 3 times since 12-14 with my 3 big sisters. In my situation, my mother did not get on with my 3 big step-sisters. One by o... (read in full...)

What's the chance of this actually succeeding and, if not, how long can such relationships last?

Q.   This one is long, but my ultimate question after I have described the following relationship is, what's the chance of this actually succeeding and, if not, how longcan such relationships last? I have a 22 y/o guy friend who has been in a long-d...

A.   7 May 2007: Hello mate. This question seems not have been answered in a w hile so I thought I would write in. The situation you are in is unpleasant. But you did hit the bullseye at the end. Yuo should aim to distance yourself from the technicalities o... (read in full...)

Is it stupid to provide advice to those who don't treat me fairly?

Q.   I provide moral support even to those people who do not treat me fairly or sometimes even abuse me. Is it just being stupid? ...

A.   7 May 2007: That is a very good question. This will ultimately come down to the type of person you are. If you wish to help people then you could do so whole heartedly - regardless of the consequences because that is you belief, or you could reasonab... (read in full...)

Why do I find it 'offensive' when a woman really desires me?

Q.   I feel it offensive when a woman desires me. I am 25 yrs single guy and virgin. Why do i get scared of them stay away when they crave for me? ...

A.   7 May 2007: That is unsusual behaviour for any guy. Even my gay friends are flattered when they realise they are have female admirers. Your reaction may be due in part to something psychological. Although I am not qualified to comment in psychology I can po... (read in full...)

OMG... we didn't use a condom, could I be pregnant!!!???

Q.   my boyfriend and i had sex today and when finished he went to clean up and throw the condom away and he came back and we just laid together in the bed. after a few minutes we started making out and one thing led to another and his penis was inside ...

A.   7 May 2007: In this scenario it would seem unlikely. As you would just have finished sex. He should've already ejaculated and cleaned himself up. FRom here a guy would have wait about 30-60mins before his testicles would be able to secrete any more sperm. ... (read in full...)

Is this product safe to use???

Q.   I am a bit worried. I bought this fade cream by the brand AMBI. This product contains hydroquinone 2%. I was wondering if this product is safe to use for whitening my face even though it has hydroquinone 2%? I heard this is bad or maybe cancerous. ...

A.   7 May 2007: Hello there.I am not qualified as a chemist so please take my response with a pinch of salt. Hydroquinone is used as a component of skin whitening creams and you are right in some countries it's use in this manner has been deemed illegal (France)... (read in full...)

Can anyone tell me exactly what she means?

Q.   i round about asked this girl out. and she said she would get back to me about it as soon as she could. can someone shine some light on what she means? all she said was "i'll get back to you about wensday". because thats when i offered to buy he...

A.   7 May 2007: That is very tricky. In my personal experience it is usually a delay to find a reason to blow-off. Usually. There are other things to consider: - You're approach in asking her - She may not know what she is doing this week - She doesn't... (read in full...)

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