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writes: I am really fed up with my boyfriend and with his attitude toward women and relationships. He does so many insensitive things and whenever I call him on something, I get one of two answers: 1)I am a guy. All guys do this, 2) You are insecure. We are in our late twenties.For example, last night we were out with friends. I arrived late and walked into a conversation about breasts. Whatever, I am not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, but what bothered me was that while he was having this conversation with this other girl about breasts, he was staring at hers. He does this all the time. I finally said something to him last night because it was RIDICULOUS and he told me that I am just jealous and insecure. Then he said, I am a guy, all guys have wandering eyes, you have to get used to it.I am so sick of it... the ogling, the rude comments about how I look compared to other women (not to toot my own horn, but I am an attractive woman), and my latest and favorite--that he doesn't like giving me oral sex because he hates pubic hair and I should shave it. I naturally have very little hair down there and I will be damned if I am going to shave it off to appease him. I have been with a fair number of men (he has not had much experience and lately I am figuring out why) and none of them have ever had anything to say about my hair situation. I am at a loss. I am so tired of feeling bad. I want to just run but something holds me back and I keep giving him opportunities to learn and grow and mature, but at what cost? I am unhappy and depressed and totally downtrodden. But I have put so much of myself into this and into him and there are glimpses of the man I think he can be.... I know I should leave but I am terrified that I will never meet anyone else.Please help. I need someone to say something to snap me out of the denial I am in.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (1 May 2006):
 He doesn't only sound young chronologically but also mentally and emotionally too! I feel for you honey cos he sounds like a bit of a jerk to tell the truth.
Read back over you letter and what you wriiten and decide if you really WANT to be with somebody who ogles other females, chats them up, gets into intimate conversations with them, tells you he doesn't like this or that about you? Why do you stay with him? If you are fed up with it all get some strength together and move on. When you ahve mr handsome and mature on your arm treating you the way you should be treated you will wonder what you ever saw in him in the first place.
I wish you luck.
xx
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