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writes:Is it normal - or even not so normal but okay sometimes - for a separated man to go on holiday with his wife and son, if the son has been very badly affected by the parents' separation to the extent of showing fairly extreme behavioural disorder, including aggression and mood swings? If the two parents are really trying to work together to help their son - but not necessarily get back together as a couple - is this understandable that they would sometimes share a holiday as a family?
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (5 May 2013):
 I see this as postponing the inevitable, and enabling their son’s condition… If they could not work out their own marriage (for whatever reason), how is it conceivable they know how to fix their son’s ‘extreme’ behavioural disorder? Has this been a suggested method/approach by Behavioural Disorders Anonymous or something? How is the Childs health and behaviour otherwise?By all means permit them to try anything for the sake of their child… But these family holidays will go on forever until they seek professional help!? Perhaps as an alternative solution; the Father could try having custody of his Son to see if that calms his behaviour down?The solutions are endless and vary, but even family holidays have to come to an end one day, so what happens after that? Take Care – CAA
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2013): It is compleatly alright if it's to help a child. The child comes first and if family holidays are what help then that's what's gonna have to happen. As long as that's all that's going on and he is thinking of what's best for his child I wouldn't worry to much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2013): Hi there. I would say it is not normal or even okay for them to go on Holiday. Go to counselling together, take the child to the park together and talk, see the child individually for huge amounts of quality time together, see the teachers together, yes. Holiday? No. They are fostering a false belief in the child that they are together, in that case he should get back with his ex wife properly. But never mind if its normal for them or not, if it is not right for you, if it makes you feel unhappy and neglected, you should take control of your own life and decide that you will find love elsewhere. It does not matter what other people do in their relationship, its about what you want for yourself. And if you don't want a partner that does things like this, and potentially will do even more things along the same line, move on. And equally if you are ok with what they are doing and are prepared to put up with it and take a longer view, then it doesn't matter what other people think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2013): If it is solely for the purpose of the child's welfare and best interests to do so, and both arents can get along during that time for the child's sake, then I think they are simply being great parents. I would try and be understanding in that situation, as the child's best interests are the most important part as he is the innocent party and his welfare is the first priority always.
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