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writes:I met V when I was 15. At the time hhe told me he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. Eventually I broke up with my boyfriend. He still had his girlfriend and was obviously not ready to be in a relationship with me so I moved on. I got pregnant for a boy in school. V was very upset when I told him this. V and his girlfriend broke up and we were together. He was there for my son and we were both happy. I got pregnant for him and everything was perfect. One day I found out that he got another girl pregnant - I forgave him for it and we moved on in our relationship. Today I found out that the girl is pregnant for him again. i confronted him and he told me it was true...... What do I do I am deeply in love with him. My Son calls him daddy casue his been around since my son was born and we have a 2yr old. What do I do, I love him sooooo much...
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reader, Ginalolabridga  +, writes (25 September 2008):
 Hi,
This is a hard one you have two children to this boy and he has two others to another girl!!
Not good is it?
I would never tell anyone to leave their partner i am not in your shoes nor in your life but i can only say that he seems to have no loyalty to any of the two of you does he?
He is father now to four kids what age is he?
You have to think long term here and for your children how long before he gets someone else pregnant?
You are young still and could meet someone else you deserve some respect here and he clearly is not giving any of the two of you that!
I think you have to confide in your parents here or a family friend as to what to do as they will know you better than any of the aunts on here we can only advice you what we think you seem real unhappy and i am not surprised who would want this?
He seems to be quite happy though does'nt he going from one girl to the next nice and cosy for him?
But not so nice for you or the other girl you cannot have 3 people in a relationship it is never going to work so i think you really have to talk to someone get some advice from people you can trust think of your two children here they really deserve better as you do and if he cannot treat you with the respect you deserve then only you will know what the answer is here i do hope you can get some answers and i wish you both well.
Ginalolabridga
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reader, sappygirl  + ♥, writes (13 September 2008):
 spelling corrections
I meant "YOU SHOULD NOT LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT."
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reader, sappygirl + ♥, writes (13 September 2008):
i agree with the other aunts.
You have to leave and find a way to make it on your own with your son.
Yes, you love him, but he does not love and respect you.
If that relationship is okay with you, then stay.
But you deserve so much more. Someone who will care, and cherish you someday.
He is probably your first love and it's hard to let go.
but keeping him around will only cause you more pain and heartache. He obviously has no remorse for cheating.
And you should let him get away with that.
If you do, he will step on you and walk all over you.
best of luck. Stay strong.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (13 September 2008):
 You may love him but love yourself MORE...you are young with a family to take care of. If you keep taking this rubbish off him you will end up as his doormat to walk all over as he likes. If he respected you then he would not stray like this. You cannot change him - once a cheater, always a cheater. You can change how you think and feel about him - see him for what he is. He is blown a hole in your happy family life and you have children to protect from the misery of this situation.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 even if you love him you have to leave... cause forgiving him would be a mistake he would do it over and over again..the hardest thing is to love someone that doesn't love you back.. and that is your case cause if he loved you he wouldn't be doing that to you:)he knows that you won't leave because there is a child involved.. but if you leave you'll show him how hard it is to get back with you...i don't think that he wants to be away from his child or you..
he is using your love as a benefit of his own to do anything he wants..i think this is called cheating...
get out..i know it's hard.. but do it now or your regret it all of your life..
when you say that you want to leave mean it.. maybe leave for a while just for him to do some thinking.. cause i'm sure he loves his kid..
take care and please tell us what happens..XXX
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