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writes:My boyfriend hurt his back muscle slightly 2 months ago and ever since then he has not been able to orgasm during sex. I am very confused by this because usually his back only starts to hurt after more than 20 minutes of sex but there have been times before the accident when he came in less than 10 minutes. I just feel like I have lost interest in having sex with him because for me seeing the guy orgasm is one of the best parts of sex and everytime for the past 2 months I feel like it is me not doing a good enough job or that he doesn't find me attractive enough to not be able to orgasm.Can anyone shine any light on this? On how to improve my situation and if a hurting back really affects your ability to orgasm? One thing to note is that my boyfiend likes to take control and sets his own pace so he rarely if ever comes from blow jobs or from the girl being on top.
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reader, xKx__ +, writes (3 October 2008):
I just started going through this with my boyfriend.
He just hurt his back muscle less then a month ago. and for the past couple weeks we noticed that it was taking a lot longer then usual for him to come.
As he heals though it's becoming easier for him, but during sex he has to be careful not to have a spasm in his lower back.
He will get back to normal because I was super worried about this too!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 October 2008):
 How serious is his back injury?
A broken spine will SERIOUSLY interrupt his capacity to orgasm, the orgasm happens in the brain after all, so if something is interrupting the communication between the penis and the brain.
All it needs is the wrong nerve being pinched and voila.
If he isn't seeing a doctor about it, do it now. I don't think he is making excuses, what on earth could be his motivation for it.
Either pain or something wrong is causing this. Either case needs to be treated. If there is something wrong with his spine, it might even get worse.
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reader, GirlyonFire +, writes (3 October 2008):
OMG, I just learned about back injuries affecting the ability to orgasm from some research. Take it easy and let him heal, If the injury doesn't heal properly he could be like this for life. Being it's a muscle he injured it probly will heal eventually. Get him to talk to his doctor about proper exercises and care, also about how he is affected sexually. Some tips I know, 8 glasses of water a day help prevent the muscles from spasm (from a massauge therapist - it works tested & tried); Banannas are suposedly good for muscle pain relief/prevention-(from a man with arthritis in his knees); and head to toe spinal stretches (starting at the head and stretching every muscle down to the toe)-(from a gymnastics instructor who's advice healed my spine); Massauge therapy; heat therapy (my favorite); anti-inflamitory drugs but they have their side effects & can actually cause set-backs in the healing process if strenuous activities are performed after taking them. I would strongly recommend giving him time to heal before expecting improvement. I know this must be frustrating for you but it is likely to be temperary. I hope this is helpful to both of you!
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