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writes:I'm just going to say it and sound horrible..my boyfriend doesn't really have a life anymore.He's so different to the person I met 5 years ago. He used to have a circle of friends. He'd meet up with his brother once a week to hang out. He'd go over friends' houses for pizza and beer and video games. He'd go out to listen to bands play, go to bars, be SOCIAL.All that changed 2.5 years ago. He's developed depression and now does nothing. He goes to work, eats, and sleeps. On the weekends, he stays home, watches TV, and plays computer games by himself. He hasn't seen his friends in literally almost 6 months. He ignores texts from them and has now stopped getting texts at all because he always turns them down.I'm so worried for him and I just don't know what to do. He REFUSES to go to therapy, that's not an option. He takes antidepressants but that's it.The guy I used to know is gone and now this miserable, anti-social person is in his place. Every time I suggest he go out with friends, he gets angry. He just doesnt bother at all with life anymore.I love him so much but this has been going on for almost 3 years now and its starting to really take a toll on our relationship. What can I do??
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reader, Fionnlagh +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Some people are more than willing to change for the better if their habits are brought up to their attention. I’d talk about this with him personally though. And maybe shake things up a bit with some new adventures and dates.
But don't suggest he should quit video games, that won't work. That never works. :)
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reader, Shelley Harris  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Hi,
I'm really sorry to hear your boyfriend is in a bad place, I know this must have a major effect on you. I want to say it's not your fault and it's not your job to prop him up. I'm sure you must love him otherwise you wouldn't have posted, but you cannot waste your life either, you are not responsible for him if he won't get help there is not much you can do. If your boyfriend won't go out then you must get a life even if it's to give you a break, you cannot stay in this situation forever don't neglect your own life for another that wont change theirs.
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