Boyfriend doesn't need me as much?
Q. My boyfriend and I chat online everyday, but sometimes work gets in the way, and days go by. My boyfriend rarely uses his phone, and he doesnt like texting me often, because we're LDR and its expensive for him, though I've offered to help pay. ...
A. 30 June 2011: Hi,
I'm sorry to hear that your guy doesn't communicate much. Go back and read what you've written. When you have a relationship with anyone, communication has to come first. If it's this way now, what will it be like in the future. See if the s... (read in full...)
Every time I go on a diet I end up putting back on every single pound
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question or anything, but I could do with some help? I'm 20 years old and having some insecurities with myself. I'm 5ft 4 and 10st, a UK 12-14 and hate it. My breasts are a size 34G and and cause me constant pain...
A. 30 June 2011: Hi, This is a relationship question, I can empathise with how you feel. There are many people that don't feel comfortable with their bodies. You say each time you just put the weight back on. Do you know why? Do you revert to the same eating habi... (read in full...)
To threesome or not to threesome...mature answers only please!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years now. Recently, we've hit a few rough patches and I'm trying to spice up and revive our relationship. One of his fantasies is to have a threesome with a woman that neither one of us ...
A. 30 June 2011: Hi, I can understand why you think this might be agood idea, you say you want to spice up your relationship, but you don't say what's wrong with it. Good sex in not the sign of a good relationship. For those people that have fantastic relati... (read in full...)
After 7 years of online friendship we are going to meet, but now I am worried!
Q. I've been talking to a guy online for 7 years, we'll call him Adam we talked pretty much constantly, I had a boyfriend for 5 of the years and I have a 11 month old little boy, me and my boyfriend split up because of problems between us and his anger ...
A. 30 June 2011: Hi, My advice to you is be careful, you are right to be cautious, if you are worried about his behaviour and flirting and you don't yet have a relationship, how would you feel if you were having a relationship, do you think he will stop just b... (read in full...)
Girlfriend always thinks I'm going to repeat what I've done in the past!
Q. I need help me and my gf are going through a major fight she thinks I will never change when I already have she dwells in the past thinking I will lie to her and cheat on her when I won't I love her to death I would do anything for her I never want ...
A. 30 June 2011: Hi, I'm sorry to hear you and your girlfriend are not getting along. You need to be patient, if you have hurt her in the past it will take a WHILE for her to trust you again. Let me tell you something about women you may not know. The only ... (read in full...)
Should I leave him and look for someone who puts in more effort?
Q. Should I break up with my boyfriend? He has great wonderful qualities, and I do love him, but I feel like he doesn't put a lot of effort into our relationship. I don't know if my expectations are too high, but are there guys out there who really ...
A. 30 June 2011: Relationships have to be worked on continuously by both partners, I don't know what you regard as 'effort' do you mean that he puts in less effort than you. You need to have a conversation about what you are expecting of him, and him of you, there ... (read in full...)
We're both so bitter and unttrustworthy! Should we just end it?
Q. My bf and i have had a turbulent relationship. We started off as best friends...gradually falling for each other. The 1st few months were amazing..till the arguments began...stupid...stupid things...but we'd fight about them almost every da...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi, Why are you both bitter and untrustworthy, if you have behaviours that are not helping you then you need to change them. Why do you fight about stupid things if you know it's going to cause problems. You need to communicate honestly wha... (read in full...)
I just want to be 100% happy, not 75% and have to find the other 25% elsewhere.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months. We have known each other for 8 years on and off. I had a crush on him when I was 12. We never went out or did anything until I was 19 with the exception of a drunk mini makeout session when I was ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi, It is not normal for a partner to treat you the way you have suggested, the fact that he has no respect for your time or your efforts, walks all over your feelings and has a disrespect for your culture. I was in a relationship like this a... (read in full...)
For those over 35: What would you have done differently in your relationships when you were younger?
Q. Hi, OK, I read a lot of questions on Dear Cupid by people in their early to late 20s who are stumbling about in their relationships over issues of trust, commitment, priorities, responsibility, etc. So I was wondering if the older DC folks could p...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi,
I agree with some of the points in the first answer, it is important to get to know one another, find out about their past, each others achievements, hopes dreams etc, find out as much as you can, love each other but be individuals and supp... (read in full...)
Did he have an affair and can we ever get past it?
Q. Did my husband have an affair? I have been married for 17 years this year.Our sex life for the last 10 years had been almost non existant. It all came to a head about 2 years ago. My husband was being flirty with a work colleague and going out wi...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi,
I'm really sorry to hear your relationship is not going in the right direction. I would suggest you go to relate or a relationship coach/counsellor. It seem that both of you have different ideas about what is right or wrong. And for you ther... (read in full...)
Should I ask him directly? He's a shy kind of guy
Q. hi, thank you for answering my previous questions guys......but i have one more question to ask..... the guy I talked about before... he called me on my birthday i.e. on 11 Feb he wished me Happy Birthday. Since then he has called me everyday, but...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi,
Perhaps you need to ask him outright, you obviously think there is something wrong because he doesn't say. But from a guys point of view the fact he is calling you on a regular basis should give you a clue, men think in different ways to women... (read in full...)
We hardly communicate effectively. He's sensitive. How do I improve our communication?
Q. I am in a new relationship after the death of my husband in 2007. How do I deal with an emotionally sensitive person? we hardly communicate effectively. I don't know how to handle this. ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi,
This is tricky as I don't know the person involved but I would tell them you want the relationship to work but you are not sure if the communication is working successfully. Ask them how they feel about what you said and ask if you could ma... (read in full...)
We are good mates, but it looks like he wants more. I'm not sure. Should I allow it to become more?
Q. For a long time now everyone has been telling me to get with a particular boy. This morning he told me he loved me, but we are really good friends. I dont know how I feel. We are already good mates and have gone out with friends a couple of times...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi,
I wonder if the answer is in your post, you should not do something because other people are telling you too. You must do it because YOU want to. No-one knows how you feel except you, follow your heart. Do what YOU think is right.... (read in full...)
Do people really fall out of love?
Q. Im 29 and my girlfriend is 25. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. Just before Christmas we had been going through a rough patch and arguing over stupid stuff and calling each other names. She said she wanted some space so I moved out and ...
A. 12 February 2011: Hi,
As we go through life, we change our beliefs values and perceptions, we change our views. Things which we believe one year can change by the next year. I think your girlfriend has a different view of what she wants from life. You are still bo... (read in full...)
How can I change my self image, so that I can find a girlfriend?
Q. Hello dear cupid, i just found this site by accident. I figure since im here i can give it a try. you all seem to be fairly good and answering questions. I am a 22 year old guy. i am single, and have been for going on 5 years. people always te...
A. 12 February 2011: Hi, So many guys have this problem, when you have low self esteem and don't think much of yourself, then sub-consciously you believe no one else will either and your behaviour will reflect this. Improving your self image as you say is key, this... (read in full...)
I want a way out of my marriage but feel trapped...why cant I get myself to walk away?
Q. ok ... here's the deal. I have a lot going on these days (more bad than good). I'm in a unhappy marriage, but I seem to tough it out for my kids. I have basically told my husband of 13 years that I'm not in love with him... somehow, he doesn't ...
A. 12 February 2011: Hi, I'm really sorry to hear about the difficult situation you find yourself in. I just want to tell you there is light at the end of the tunnel. When I was reading your post I thought you were talking about me. My situation was exactly like you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has changed so much. It's taking a toll on me. What can I do?
Q. I'm just going to say it and sound horrible.. my boyfriend doesn't really have a life anymore. He's so different to the person I met 5 years ago. He used to have a circle of friends. He'd meet up with his brother once a week to hang out....
A. 8 February 2011: Hi,
I'm really sorry to hear your boyfriend is in a bad place, I know this must have a major effect on you. I want to say it's not your fault and it's not your job to prop him up. I'm sure you must love him otherwise you wouldn't have posted, ... (read in full...)
Broken and wiling to never open my heart again
Q. This guy that I liked forever lead me on for about 2 years and just shut me down about an hour ago, I have forgiven him for every lie he said to me, i have forgiven him from doing all this other stuff, but he just shut me down, and even though i ...
A. 8 February 2011: Hi,
There is a lot of emotion tied up in this it's not easy to give advice when you don't know the circumstances. I would give him some space go out and enjoy life, be vibrant let him see you like that and he may well come back. The thing I ... (read in full...)
I watch my boyfriend flounder and float through life. Do I end things with him?
Q. For a little bit of background, I'm a college bound girl. School is very important to me, and I've been looking forward to going to college and then moving on to life for as long as I can remember. My boyfriend and I have been together for a b...
A. 8 February 2011: Hi,
You sound like a really supportive person, well done for that, I'm wondering if your boyfriend would really like to get into life but does not because of low self esteem and confidence. My husband was the same way, he was shy and didn't t... (read in full...)
We fought and haven't spoken in a week. Will he come back to me?
Q. So, My boyfriend is 23 and I am 18. We have been together for over three years now, long distance. Mostly we have a great relationship, he's a really great boyfriend. He's really attentive, loving, always tells me how perfect I am etc. We used to ...
A. 6 February 2011: Hi,
I'm sorry that you're having problems. You say you worry about everything and if that's true it's going to put a strain on your relationship. I'm sure he has been really kind and propped you up a few times. A person can only do this so much ... (read in full...)
Married man is finally free, will our marriage work?
Q. I have been dating a man older than me by 25yearrs for about 3years.I'm 21years old now.Now that he and his wife are nolonger together,I am sceptical that our marriage(he proposed) will work.Am I being unfair on us? I do love him but looking ...
A. 6 February 2011: I have been in your shoes, It's hard at 21 to comprehend what life will bring in my experience. The relationship we be great for a few years and then fizzle out. When you have an affair with someone the only thing you have in common is deceit and ... (read in full...)
A teenager and pregnant.... I am scared to tell my parents!
Q. I just turned 16 two months ago. I have been dating my boyfriend for two yaers now, and well we´ve had a past thats not so cute. He´s been real aggressive and stuff but thats not the problem now. Well im pregnant with his baby and im really n...
A. 6 February 2011: This happened to me. I was abused and my abuser told me not to tell and threatened me. I didn't tell anyone and felt so alone, after a while it was obvious. I had to have an abortion at 22 weeks. I was two weeks away from my 16th Birthday This has ... (read in full...)
Am I masturbating too much?
Q. I have a girlfriend as of now, but I still masturbate at least once, usually twice per day. All told, between my time with her and my own time I'm getting off about 13-16 times per week. I know that this may qualify as over-masturbation, but I'm not ...
A. 6 February 2011: The only time it's too much is if it hurts. It will probably lesson as you get older. Enjoy it there is nothing wrong with you.... (read in full...)
I found out she's a loose easy fluzzie.She's not wife material.
Q. Evening everyone. I'm in need of suggestions on how to break it off with a woman I've been seeing since this past August. I want to do in a way that won't insult her or cause her self esteem to go down. For the most part we've got on pretty well and ...
A. 6 February 2011: Hi, I can understand why you wouldn't want to be with this women, and I'm so pleased you don't want to harm her self esteem. I believe that's what this is all about. Do you know that these things are REALLY TRUE. If they are then you need to tell... (read in full...)
I've decided to leave my husband... but how do I find the strength to actually do it?
Q. I have decided in my mind that I need to leave my husband. I am seeing a psychologist that feels this would be the best thing for me as well, being that my heart and love is not with him. The problem is I am scared, and worried about him. I told ...
A. 6 February 2011: Hi, This is quite a difficult question to answer on paper, but the reason why you find it so hard to go is because you don't think enough of yourself. When we are in an emotionally abusive relationship we are belittled undervalued etc, we lose our... (read in full...)
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