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36-40,
*harissa
writes:I have been a relationship for 4yrs, we have had some rough patches such as last year I attended his birthday party and he disappeared then i learned he disappeared with another woman. This year,he held another party and the woman was there, during the party he told me that theyre not involved however it was a public event so i did not say anything. After the party I over heard her saying she is waiting on him, when i investigated it turned out he did not drive and she drove him there and he left with her while he was drunk and i was humiliaated since this was done in front of his friends my friends and people i didnt know. I followed the car and they went to his house, i created a scene, broked his window and demanded him out, she came to the door in her PJs and was looking while he was accusing me of being drunk and called my friends to get me. Now he's saying he had a bit too much to drink and he is very sorry he wants to talk and work thing out. I am confused hurt bitter angry and embarrassed. However I love him soo much and I dont know if maybe there's a chance we could move beyond this considering our love for each other. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): Girlfriend been there done that theses type of men want their cake and eat it to. His dessert should stop with you! Don't ever allow no one to make you feel less of yourself meaning settling for anything and standing for nothing.You are to strong to crumble:) Your wait is worthy live your life and remember life is to short.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 I could not get past my "boyfriend" going to his birthday party with another woman. I cannot even fathom how you can be so "can we get past this" when you found them together in her home with her in her pjs.
he's been seeing her for at least a year.
he's actually probably keeping you on the side as a little bit of fun
I'd not degrade myself by seeing him any more.
it's going to hurt and be lonely but leave him. do not try to fix this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): Why do u want to humiliate yourself any further over this man. He has no respect and does not care about you.Having said that if you continue a relationship with him, you have no one to blame but yourself as he will break your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): Tell him to go fk himself and cut all ties with him forever. He doesn't give an inkling of shit about you nor does he have any respect for you. HE IS BENEATH YOU!!!, LOWER THAN THE SCUM DIRT ON THE BOTTOM OF YOUR SHOES!!!! YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM!!!! There's a guy out here awaiting you, aching to love, respect and treat you like the Queen who you are and it's up to you to step to the plate and dispose of that scumbag immediately so that Your Prince can Love you and cherish you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): I don't understand how he is your boyfriend of 4 years but you know so little about him. You don't even know that he was showing up to a party with another girl? And then he leaves without you and goes home with the other girl? I mean did he even talk to you at the party?
That's not a relationship. You think you are in a relationship and he is already dating someone else? He completely dogged you.
It's like Janniepeg says, he already started dating someone else without breaking up with you! Right in your face.
What he did was heinous.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 He lied to you, for a long time. She was in her pajamas at his place, spending the night there. When was the last time you and your boyfriend were in the same car, and when was the last time you spent the night at his place? It really looks like he forgot to break up with you but didn't know what to do with you now. It wasn't the first time he did this. He was waiting for you to break up with him. He could not break up with you after disrespecting you like this, probably because he doesn't want the other girl to know about you two. You should have done it long time ago. He is not sorry. There really is nothing to talk about. To add salt to the wound, he is saying you are drunk, as if you have no permission to intrude upon his residence, yes as a girlfriend. I think the biggest disrespect is him not breaking up, like an adult, and letting you think you are still together.
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