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*armie
writes:please i am a virgin but my boyfriend put his penis on the tip of my virginal. it did not hurt me but suddenly my hymen broken and bleed but we did not have sex. please am i a virgin?
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reader, wallace  +, writes (22 December 2021):
Sorry. You’re not a virgin anymore.
It sounds like he didn't keep his penis only at the opening. He may have moved in deeper, breaking your good-girl hymen. You may not want to admit that, but the reality is, once you let a man enter you and penetrate you, you're not really a "virgin" anymore.
It doesn’t matter how far a man’s penis went into you or for how long he kept it in. And if you held him and kissed him as his penis went in, and if you enjoyed the feelings his manhood gave you, you really can’t call yourself an innocent “virgin” anymore.
This is something many naive Christian women try to do to rationalize sleeping with their boyfriends. They think by letting their nonChristian boyfriends push their cocks "only a little ways" in or in "only a short time," they can still consider themselves "pure," "virginal" and "innocent."
Another peril, if the girl isn't on birth control and her man isn't wearing a condom, pregnancy can occur. Even though the boy didn't think he cummed, sometimes, some precum, that clear fluid that emits from a penis which contain sperms, can enter the vagina, conceiving a child. Many good Christian girls are shocked by surprise pregnancies that way !!
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (12 February 2015):
 Anon is right; you can lie to yourself about what you are; if you're touching genitals with your mouth (tongue counts) or genitals, you can get STDs, so you could tell yourselves your both clean and don't need them, but you need to both see a doctor to back it up, and/or you could say you're not a virgin but, if the tip of his penis went in just the edge of your vagina - that's penetration and that means you're not a virgin. Also, if you touched his penis with your mouth (tongue counts) or he touched yours, that's oral sex and you'd still be a virgin (if that was the only thing that happened) but you would have had a form of sex.
Be sensible and protect yourselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): This is one question that baffles me till today. The same thing happened to me twice. The first time he was just playing around my v****. I didnt know until I stood up saw blood and went to the toilet. I can tell You he did not even enter me. The second time the same thing happened and I bled again meaning I could bleed the third time so I have decided my future husband would do that. I can also tell you that till today I consider myself a virgin as I have not had penetrative sex or come from penetration or whatever. These are my own rules and may not apply to you. I shared this story with my current partner and he says I am a virgin since there was no penetration and we re both fine. No one can tell you what you are only you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 February 2015):
 That sounds like you had sex to me. you can rationalize it any way you want but 'almost sex" is sex. You can't be a "little bit" pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2015): How do you know your hymen was broken, and you didn't suddenly start your period?
Technically, you're still a virgin as long as you've never had sex. Oral-sex is still sex. Dry-humping is also sex.
Technically, if the hymen is broken during penetrative-sex, or during the act of sex, you are no longer a virgin.
Your gynecologist can confirm if your hymen is actually broken. Any excessive stress or pressure in the vaginal area can sometimes break the hymen. Like riding a bicycle, riding a horse, a bad fall, inserting a tampon, a hard blow (like a punch); or coming down hard on your crotch.
Added pressure from his probing the entrance to your vagina with his penis may have been all it took! It may have been slightly ruptured all along. You will no longer be a virgin be that the case.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (10 February 2015):
If any part of his penis entered your vagina, even the tiniest bit, you had sex and you're not a virgin.
Also, the hymen tears for all sorts of reasons and, if you had foreplay beforehand, that could be it. You MUST have foreplay before sex or it will hurt more - you also need to use condoms AND birth control. If you can't/wont, you should be getting naked around each other yet.
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