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writes:I need some advice about my older sister (16). I dont know what to make of something that happened yesterday. I walked by my sisters room when i got home and saw her dancing and twerking. I didn't stop or anything but she still noticed that i saw her. She bitched me out and gave me attitude the rest of the night until before bed when she came to talk to me. She apologized and said she was mad cause no one knows that she can twerk and is scared i was going to tell someone. She is very shy with others. She said she was practicing for school dances but didn't know if she would ever end up doing it cause like i said she is pretty shy. Anyways, she then actually said that she could make it up to me and give me a twerk session and I could give her my opinion of her skills!! I was weirded out but I said ok anyways. My mom was sleeping so the music wasn't loud but she actually twerked for me! I feel like it was a dream. She then pulled me up from the bed and we bumped and grinded a bit. I got a little hard and im not sure she felt it or not. My mom is is working late tomorrow and my sis said I can watch her practice some more and play some music louder if I want.I have zero experience with girls so I'm totally confused and weirded out about all this! The thing is she was really good and I kind of want to dance with her again but I feel guilty about it also. Is this normal behaviour from girls and sisters? Does she really see this as just dancing even though it is kind of a sexual dance? Should I make an excuse to be away tomorrow?Thanks for your help in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): Midnight Shadow, I understand that "twerking" is the rage with some teens. When I was a teen, the rage with some teens was the "rump shaker." Others preferred "the worm" or the "mc Hammer," or the "bump and grind." In the 60's people loved to "boogie."
What does it matter whether this is the rage or not?
Even if it wasn't a sexual dance, wouldn't you find it weird if your brother said, "hey if you don't tell mom about x situation, I'll let you come by my room and watch me do the 'boogie.' As if that is not weird enough, imagine if he asked you to come by his room to do the "bump and grind."
This has nothing to do with what the rage is. This is an intentional tactic in using seduction to manipulate her brother into submission.
Hon, tell your mom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): I agree, this is WEIRD. You didn't do anything wrong, but you should talk about it with your parents. It might be good for you sister to see a counselor or something. If you're too nervous to talk to them in person, you could just email them the link to this page and tell them that you wrote it.
I know it's embarrassing, but it's important to stop something like this NOW before anything like that happens again.
Also, don't feel bad about getting hard--it's not your fault. You're not perverted or anything else like that. It's an automatic response that can be impossible to control (like a woman getting wet--we can't control that).
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (11 February 2015):
 Anon, unfortunately, "twerking" is all the rage for the majority of people 14 - 20 (from my experience) and, again I'd say it's unfortunate, she's learning about sexuality at a very average age for this generation - yet using it very inappropriately, if this is true.
I wouldn't tell your mum yet, and if suggest pretending it never happened - unless it happens again, then you refuse and tell your parents what she did because she needs to be told that it will never be appropriate to use sexual anything as a bribe, let alone on family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): Your sister offered to use a sexual dance to "make it up to you" that she bitched at you. She is trying to seduce her own brother as a bribe in exchange for you not telling your mother that she twerks. Yeah, that's Weird with a capital W. No this isn't normal behavior. I could understand her bribing you with money or letting you borrow her car. But with her sexuality?! ew, ew, ew...This is very inappropriate. Where is she learning this behavior? She is too young to be that aware of her sexuality and that she is even resorting to using her sexuality to get what she wants. Much less use this trick on her own brother. I'd like to know where she is learning this from.That's not normal. It's bizarre. There needs to be an intervention. If I were you I would tell your mom.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (10 February 2015):
If this isn't a fantasy and actually happened, it's not okay to watch your sister twerk (unless she's in a group and you're not actually paying attention because you're doing something else with other people), let alone sexually dance with each other - she should know this and you shouldn't say yes next time.
You don't need to be away, you just need to never do it again.
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