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writes:HELP! My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year, but have known each other for about 7 years. We love each other very much! We live together and want to get married and have children together too. I also know that he already bought an engagement ring for me. However, I just started a new job and I met this guy that is just driving me crazy! Everytime I see him I get butterflies and I just love being in his presence. I know he likes me too, but he knows I have a bf. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend is 19, I'm 21 and the new guy is 25. I feel that I'm not ready to be settled down and that my bf is just holding the ring over my head to make me stay with him. I mentioned to him that we should get seperate apartments bc I've never lived on my own before and I want to do that before i get married and he made me feel so guilty by saying he won't be able to afford his own apartment and will have to move back in with his parents. I'm so confused. Someone please give me some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): don't even consider a wedding while you have strong feelings for somebody else especially when you say you aren't ready to settle down. i was meant to be getting married in 3 weeks but last week my fiancee left me for a co-worker. it's the most horrible thing in the world to think i was going to marry her and then she left me. it might just be a crush with this guy but before you start making any sort of plans with your boyfriend, figure out your feelings about this other guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): well you have to ask yourself.. do you love him with all your heart? this guy you work with is just a distraction you have your boyfriend you need to ignore him. many people in relationships find out that they have feelings for other men and women but they need to control them, i have a boyfriend but lately i realised i had feelingf for another person but when it comes down to it, i love my boyfriend and he loves me, it was just a crush i got over it soon you will too! if you are considering marriage why get separate appartments? mabey you could get engaged but not get married for a few years to come because 19 and 21 and a bit young to be settling down into a marriage.
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