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writes:How to show him i simply cannot afford all those things? Okay dear aunts ~ here is my problem and dillema:Im dating a guy who is quite well-off. Im still at the university,and have little savings so i cannot afford even things for me. The problem is, when we go out,i cannot afford paying the bills in such places he wants to go. i do make contribution to the bill,as much as i can afford(which is not that much honestly). I feel uncomfortable about this, and it has repercussions on our sexual life and relationship. I cant say i feel inferior,but its just not okey in my mind. Now he asked me to go together abroad for a weekend. I cant afford that. i do not have enough money and it will be on his back, which i dont want and i do not think he wants either. Should i tell him this? Can we be together, even in such curcumstances and feel comfortable? Im in doubt, or should i just let him go, and tell to find another? what to do!?Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for answering. Its not about his lifestyle or anything, but making me uncomfortable. I decided(although is hard) to go on and find somebody like me, and with who i will fell comfortable, nice and natural . Think thats the best.
Thank you again, Yep FAde878 its is troubling really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): Hi Love,
First he knows your situation, He has the opportunity to say lets go here , Somewere less expensive and more affordable for you so it doesnt make you feel so uncomfortable..You have to tell him love, simply Im not in the same situation as you and canot afford the things you want and then see what he has to say, It all depends on how much you feel about each other and his understanding that you are not made of money.
If he isnt happy either way he should tell you how it is so you stop worrying hun, he must no so its unfair to have you worry this way. TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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