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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): hey girl well i know its hard but if you only want to do it then you should if not leave him because im 13 too and my boyfriend was 19 yea i know he was a little to old for me but he changed ever since i was hanging out with my friend thomas and keeps on aking me to have sex so i totally ingore him now but he really still wants me so im confused too
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): DONT DO IT!! I'm 13 myself and i swear if you do you will regret it for the rest of your life; i have had 6 boyfriends in the past month because they wanted to do it, and you know what they broke up with me but idk. they had their own party with other girls and got them pregnant and they were all 15. I was so happy i said no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): How can anyone tell a 13 year old girl to 'go for it' if she is ready for sex. How can she know what she is doing. This is so irresponsible. She should be at school studying.Wheres her mother for gods sake
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): Its up to you. If your ready go for it, but if it feels wrong then wait. Dont let him pressure you into having sex, if he does then hes not the right one for you. The right guy will understand how you feel and if he's the right one he will wait as long as it takes, A.K.A, your worth waiting for. If he cant accept that then he is a loser! Do what you feel is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): uhmm if u dont wnna have sex dont but im 14 and i only had sex acouple times. its not a "bad" thing its hormones raging but make sure u always have protection. my best friend he always says that he would take off my bathing suit in the beach and im fine with cuz i am careful. but this is funny he also says to everyone if u dont get good grades no sex lol. but it doesnt mean im a bad person or "omg she has sex" no i still get all a's and b's in school listen and have time to play and do work. We only did like twice cuz we are careful of the aids and everything. but jsy because i did it doesnt mean ima bad person. i am really nice and i AM NOT SEXUALLY ACTIVE AT ALL.. i just love him alot he didnt even push me. he is a sweethaert =] but if u feel it is wrong DONT GET PRESSURED then something badd will deff. happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): I am 13 and my boyfriend asked me if i was a virgin, so i told him the truth i said "yes".he goes "oh" Then he asked me if i would let him take my virginity.What should I Do?Because i sometimes feel dat im ready but then other times i feel scared.
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Even though I have a boy friend there is this boy in the eighth grade but he is 13 too,and we've been talkin on the phone a lot for a while then suddenly one day he asked me if i was a virgin, i said "yes" he says "will you let me be your first?" I didnt say nothing.I am confused because I like both boys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): i am in the same position i'm 13 and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex. i flat out told him no not until we are married .and he was totally fine with it . give it a shot yu never know until u try. good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): If you are only 13 and have been seeing eachother for only 3 weeks I think you should tell him your not ready and if he refuses to respect your choice, then you should dump him and stay away from him. If he respects your choice then he really is a good guy. A real boyfriend would respect you and your choice and who will support you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): dont worry about it your only 13 and you might wind up pregnent or with a disease you need to tell him straight up "look i dont want to have sex with you im too young and im not ready!"and if he tries to thats sexual harrasment and you might want to end it there and youy need to tell your parents immediatly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): ur only 13 and you should not do things that you dont want to do. you are too young to start having sex. once you lose ur virginity that's it you know how it feels. but boys think that sex is nothing bad cause they cant get prgnant. so they dont care about you and if he did he would not be asking you this. 4 weeks is not enough to get to know each other like that maybe a couple of years is. go out and have fun parties, malls, beaches, shopping, sleep overs but just dont do anything that you dont feel right about .and you may think that i dont know about this stuff but i do. i am 13 just like some of you guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): Ur 13 girlie im 17 n I rember thinking about that when I was 13 n guess what I told the guy no n he broke up with me n told all his friends he only wanted sum ass so listen Hes the EXACT same okay they dont care if they have sex they cant get pergnat but u can and it will ruin ur life dont do it please Thank you
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reader, Yos  + ♥, writes (28 September 2006):
 I don't understand why 'oral sex' isn't considered sex. I mean, it's even called oral SEX. I guess it's the obsession with trying to remain a virgin whilst trying to 'get some' at the same time. Or maybe we can thank Bill Clinton?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): your too young mentally your not ready tell him this dont let him pressure you and dont do anything your not 100percent happy with else you will regret it and be emotionally upset your growin up but your not a woman yet so be a child go school have fun if he doesnt accept it. trust me he doesnt care enough anyway 3 weeks is not long enough to start having sex or oral plus there are risks of sexual infections good luck hun hope you take the advice and be young and free.
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (25 September 2006):
 you are only 13 you shouldnt even be doing oral nor any sexual stuff! you have your whole life ahead of you and when your in your 20's youll be thinking why did i do all that stuff ive now been with 30 odd guys in a sexual matter! no give up no sex no oral nor anything else your a teenager! act like one you are not old enough and you are not a woman as yet!
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reader, Charmedone +, writes (25 September 2006):
 your far too young to be thinking about having sex let alone having it u should tell this creep to get lost and find someone his own age! your only 13 your still classed as a child in the eyes of the law if this boy does have intercourse with you he will more than likely get done with having intercourse with a minor which could lead to him having a crimanil record now you don't want that do you? also there's the factors of pregnancy sti's std's you don't want to be 13 with a baby do u? xx
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reader, vixie +, writes (25 September 2006):
 if you dont want to have sex with him tell him that you would want to wait for a while before having sex you to have only been together 3 weeks and u probably still dont know if you love eachother so for now please just say no to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): I'm sorry but my first thought was what the hell is a 13 year old doing even thinking about sex???? I'm only 21 and at 13 i was still nervous about my first french kiss with a boy. Slow down and live a little girl. For a start i think you need to stay away from this boy, tell him that there will be no sex for at least a few years and if he can't respect you for that then he better find himself a new girl to mess up. Just think if you start having sex now you could end up 13 years old with a baby, believe me you don't want that. I'm 21 and i find it hard looking after my baby. Please PLease PLease don't do this to yourself. I no your going to think i don't no what i'm talking about and i'm old and etc etc.... But believe me you'll regret not waiting until you older. Please listen to me and the fellow aunts we're not telling you this just to ruin your life. We don't no you we're just trying to save you. Goodluck and please stop and think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): You are too young to be dating, certainly MUCH too young to think about having sex!
He just wants to use you. Dump him and tell him to get lost, "NO, I'm not having sex with you."
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): I think that the fact that u have asked for help corncerning this, means that you arn't redi to have sex yet. it is such a big deal and u can only lose ur virginity once, let it be to someone special, who u love! 3 weeks isnt very long and I think that u have done more than enough in this short space of time. If this boy is tryin to push u into doing things you are not 100% comfortable with, then he is jus not worth it. Ur only 13, so take ur time and i promise u wont regret it!
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Well for starters you are not legally old enough to be having sex so your should be saying 'no'.
Noone can force, push or encourage you to do anything you don't want to do and really I'm surprised you've been doing anything sexual at all.
You should only do something when you are ready to do so and only then, you have all the time in the world to be having sex at 13 there are so many other things you can and should be doing, enjoy your time being 13 and stop trying to grow up to quickly because once you've grown up there is no going back, and if your boyfriend doesn't like it then he isn't worth you losing your virginity to anyways.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (24 September 2006):
 well, 13 is a little young for any sort of sexual activities, i suggest you tell him your not ready, having sex so young isnt a good thing, and how old is he? same age as you?
but if i was you i wouldnt do anything yet, wait till your older and know exactly if you want to, sex is a big step and that step shouldnt be taken at such a young age.
hope you make the right decision, good luck
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