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writes:Hi everyone,About a month ago my best friend started going out with this guy. Before that relationship, she was together with this she loved so much. And he broke her heart, so she was really depressed for a few weeks. So now she is together with this guy, but she keeps on telling me, that she doesn’t love that much like she loved her ex. But he kind of makes her feel better and she she’s saying, that the sex is awesome…Well, so I met him this week and couldn’t help noticing that he was glancing way too much in my direction. He started to talk to me online, about random things and when we all went into a bar, and my best friend got way too drunk, he was starting to lean over and talking in my ear, and his hand was resting on thigh, but kept on sliding up and…I know it should have freaked me out, but in way I can’t help feeling extremely attracted to him, since we have so many things in common. We laugh about the same things, like the same music, play pretty much the instruments… and he is so nice! So I’m so confused now, that I decided to ask you guys, cuz I somehow can’t trust my own decisions anymore^^Please help!!!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (13 November 2011):
 Don't do it. It's that simple. A good friend is for life, boyfriends aren't always.
Don't let guys touch you, unless invited to do so.
google The Girl Code.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Are you angry at or jealous of your friend in any way? Possibly just a little bit? Because what you are describing is a passive-aggressive way of getting back at her for something. You may not realize it, but it's a pretty hostile act to allow her boyfriend to caress you. It's not born out of friendship, if you see the point.
Yes, her boyfriend may be attractive and she may not appreciate him, but he is still her boyfriend. I think you may be confusing his charm with being nice. A really good guy wouldn't be coming on to his girlfriend's best friend. I know you know him personally and may be a bit blinded by your attraction to him but this is not a good guy, he's actually a very charming and sweet creep.
I would keep my distance and ponder on why I would want to hurt my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): Don't do it. It sounds like your friend has already had her heart broken once and it would kill her if her boyfriend left her for her best friend or cheated on her with you. Is this guy really worth risking your friendship over and hurting her so much?
P.S. Have you ever seen the first season of One Tree Hill? If not, go out and rent it...you will relate a lot to it, since your life sounds like a real-life version.
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