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writes:I've been single for a couple years now and I've been living with my best friend (who happens to be a guy) for four years. We've known each other since we were 16, though, so it's not a huge thing and he's also been single for longer than I have. The other night, however, he found my vibrator and my "naughty book" and hasn't stopped making fun of me since. I mean, c'mon, we're 23 years old! Now don't get too judgmental; he's actually a really mature and respectful guy but something about me having a sex toy and a romance novel got to him. How do I get him to get over it? I DO get lonely...
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (13 February 2012):
 lol.. so you ignored a lot of our immature advice (me) and decided to act like a grown adult.. Good for you... I hope all goes well.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 February 2012):
 oh a happy ending.... (so far)
I kind of wondered if that was what was going on...... his reaction did seem VERY over the top for just a friend...
I need to learn to trust my instincts more...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2012): Just to offer a male perspective here, anyone thought he might be teasing because it turns him on and he is actually attracted to you???? Just saying is all... (if he's gay then i apologise, i got nothin.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): I had a mature conversation with him about it and at first, he was reluctant but he admitted that he's liked me for quite some time. The sex toy and book just threw him off because he thought I could be better than that and he wants me to give him a chance. So I am. We're going out on our first on Valentine's Day. =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): We sometimes tease the peolle we like when social situations prevent us from saying what we really want. The truth? He wants you. He's using the conversation about your vibrator to open up the dialogue about sex. But remember, just because he wants to sleep with you doesn't mean he loves you.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 Just ignore him. The more you react, the more he'll keep at it. I'm sure he doesnt know that you're feeling this way, just dont reply when he says anything related to this and if he persists, tell him you're all adults and its none of his business anyway.
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reader, Abella +, writes (12 February 2012):
 it is none of his business and he is being inappropriate to tease you.
Download a brochure on a 'fleshlight' (for men) from the Internet, leave it where he can read it, and suggest he's out of touch with the real world if he thinks men and women do not enjoy such things
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2012):
He's being an immature jerk.... IGNORE him totally when he gets on you about this stuff.
It will stop shortly if you ignore him.
when he starts, if you are in a common area... pick yourself up and go to your room and shut the door. Do not say anything... do not give him a dirty look... try not to blush... If he is in your room, ask him to leave...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 February 2012):
Missed the part about him being single... that just gives you even more insults to give if he won't back off and act decently. The best way to stop offensive jokes is not to laugh, not to hide but lay bare the other's inadequacies that are causing them to try to make you the butt of their unfunny jokes.
He probably fancies you or is frustrated.. tough, he needs to deal with his problems in another way. Be careful though, his display of sexual interest might mean that he's thinking of making a proposition to you. Don't talk sex with him, and dress modestly, and don't drink around him.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 February 2012):
I like to recommend all women to buy a vibrator even if they never use it. Purely to overcome their embarrasment about sexual issues and gain the confidence to say "yes I'm a sexual being".
Just like you said here is just what I would say... "Grow up, are you 12, we're 23years old and your acting like your shocked by sex... now stop being an ass, your embarrassing yourself. Yes women use vibrators and we masturbate and if your too immature to realise that, I suggest you stay away from both guys and girls".
That should do the trick.... I can get real abusive with stupid idiots. Don't blush, don't simper, just look at him straight faced and destroy his sense of pride.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 It's all human to have desires. Express to him that you know it's a funny thing for him but if he continues to tease you you feel uncomfortable, awkward and embarrassed around him. You need a roommate who gets along and feel good around each other. I don't know if I could live with a guy roomate the next room knowing he is masturbating without feeling queasy. He might secretly find that a turn on though. The best thing is to become asexual if you living with the other sex but once he finds out about your desires the dynamics changed.
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