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I'm 30, and a female.

Frightened for mom's visit, how do I come clean about my relationship??

Q.   I'll try to keep this very long story short. Ever since 16, dating has been discouraged by my parents who are strict, school oriented and religious. (note: I was an honor roll student in highschool, award winner, 4.1 GPA, currently studying ...

A.   5 July 2014: Be honest, and if they have a problem, tell them, in no uncertain terms, to go f*** themselves. I would not put up with that. People either accept me for who I am, or they do not exist in my world. Make it clear to them that either they keep... (read in full...)

Should I have sex now or later?

Q.   I love this guy so much and I know he loves me.......we've been dating since November last year(2013), seriously, i can't wait 2 have sex with him ( we're still virgins)... My question is, should i have sex now or later(but I'm afraid, he might ...

A.   20 June 2014: If you are not sure, you are not ready. When you are ready to have sex, you will know it and you won't have any doubts. That's my feelings.... (read in full...)

Poll question. How old were you when you lost your virginity?

Q.   Hey would like to know how old were you when you lost your virginity and also did you tell your parents about it or not till later? How were you sure it was the right person?...

A.   27 November 2010: I was 13 at the time. The guy was a 25 year old I was majorly in lust with. I came on to him over several weeks, giving him oral sex a number of times, and we eventually had sex on his couch and bed. I wanted the guy, and was determined that he ... (read in full...)

I'm not even sure if I'm old enough for sex!

Q.   okay, well i've been with my boyfriend about 2 months he's a year older than me and he has "urges". he wants to get sexually involved with me but both of us have no experiece and i'm not sure wether i'm old enough or even ready i don't know what to ...

A.   28 August 2010: I have to concur with the other answers here. Regardless of your age, if you have any doubts that you want you want to have sex, you are not ready and should not do it. It'll just cause you to regret it. Wait until you have no doubts. When you feel ... (read in full...)

Age difference poll.

Q.   im starting a poll to see the age gaps in relationships from ages 14 - 16 e.g. im 14 i went out with a girl tht was 13......

A.   16 April 2010: All my male partners have been at least 10 years my senior, usually 10 to 15 years older than me. First one was 25 when I was 13. The widest age gap was a 35 year old when I was 17.... (read in full...)

This relationship is really promising but I don't want to be a mom to her 6 year old son!

Q.   I am openly, and proudly, bisexual, and I make no apologies for that. I have recently started to become involved with a woman, which is nothing unusual for me. What IS unusual, however, is that she has a kid, a 6 year-old son. The father is still ...

A.   12 October 2009: So far, the relationship is going along well. I've dealt with it by essentially acting as an aunt. I am involved in her son's life, and I speak up in private when I think my girlfriend is being too hard on him, but I make an effort to never ... (read in full...)

How do I punish my son for what he did?

Q.   Our 3 year old is very intelligent. He can write his name, sing the alphabet and ride a bike without training wheels. He is an excellent talker and even uses big words to describe things in detail. HOWEVER, he is mean to our dog. I keep ...

A.   1 September 2009: quiet-echo is right. The lack of remorse and the laughing is a huge red flag. Harming animals as a child is a classic indicator of anti-social personality disorder, otherwise known as sociopathy. If he shows any sign of pyromania or fas... (read in full...)

I feel like I married my father

Q.   I am a 29 yr old female with two children. My husband and I have worked hard to get accomplish the American dream. We depend on each others income to maintain and if I leave everything will fall apart. What about my kids? Here’s the thing……. He's ...

A.   30 August 2009: Yes. I would leave in a heartbeat.... (read in full...)

How do I get rid of these feelings that I want to be with a woman?

Q.   I am not cheating, nor do I plan on cheating on my boyfriend, but I have been with women before and he knows it. I've been feeling lately that I want to be with a woman, and I really want to tell my boyfriend without him wanting to join in (again). ...

A.   28 August 2009: Judging by what you said, you gave him his fantasy of a threesome. He has an obligation to give you YOUR fantasy. Tell him you want to be with a woman, and you want to be with her alone. He is not going to take part. If he objects, remind him that ... (read in full...)

Are all women bisexual?

Q.   just wondering... are all women bisexual?...

A.   11 July 2009: As an out-and-proud bisexual woman, let me just say this: I have never once met a supposedly 'straight' woman I couldn't get into bed if I really tried.... (read in full...)

Why do I like much older men?

Q.   I'm a 15 year old girl, and I absolutely can't stand guys around my age. They are immature and annoying to me. I'm attracted to much older guys (35+) and i'm not really sure why. I don't think it's a wanting-a-father-figure thing, because though my ...

A.   8 June 2009: I was like you at that age. I still am, although my attraction is more to men 10-15 years older. Some people are just wired to be attracted to certain types of people. There is nothing wrong with it. Older men are more settled, more mature. ... (read in full...)

Why do women like bad boys? Because they treat them badly?

Q.   I like to think of myself as a nice guy. I enjoy breaking the myth that nice guys finish last, I'm well off, good at my job, phyisically fit and an acomplished sportsman. I have however fallen flat on my face when it comes to dating. Women just are ...

A.   30 May 2009: Women find confidence in men attractive. Unfortunately, many women are not taught what true confidence is. So they overlook and ignore men who genuinely are confident, instead mistaking the arrogance and self-absorption of 'bad boys' for true con... (read in full...)

Why was I wrong to entice older men?

Q.   I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...

A.   17 May 2009: Talking Helps, the biological aspect IS a valid one. However, saying a woman isn't ready until they are 18 doesn't work. Technically, puberty ends around 15-16 for females (although men DO reach biological adulthood at around 18), so physically an... (read in full...)

Why was I wrong to entice older men?

Q.   I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...

A.   17 May 2009: Yos, again, there has been nothing in any of my responses that has been 'defensive'. I have merely spelled out my reasons for my initial post, i.e. to find a logical argument. Any 'defensiveness' is simply in your mind. You want to see it, so y... (read in full...)

I know it was just 'sex' but we're both married and I feel so guilty.

Q.   I have been with my partner for 18 years and have 4 children, he is miserable, swears at me, and is gernerally a nasty person, other days he is a kind loving person. I am attracted to someone else now which I think is just an escape from my real ...

A.   16 May 2009: If your husband is an asshole, divorce him. You shouldn't put up with crap. And I'd advise you to end the affair. Your lover is married, and cheating himself. If he were single, it'd be a different story. But, he's not. End it for his sake.... (read in full...)

Why was I wrong to entice older men?

Q.   I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...

A.   16 May 2009: "Agreed with rcn. Supposing you were actually the one-in-a-million exception to the rule still doesn't obligate law or society to condone adults having sex with a child. I think deep down you know this, and are not quite as at ease with what you did ... (read in full...)

Why does it seem like certain people get all the sex in the world?

Q.   Well I am getting older and I am still a virgin. I am about to go to college, so hopefully I will meet someone at some point in the next few years. I was just wondering why it seems like there are a few people who get a TON of sex, and others ...

A.   15 May 2009: The bigger a douchebag a guy is, the more women fall all over him.. It's a sad truth. There are women out there who do like non-jerky guys, though (unfortunately, they tend to lie older men specifically to avoid the douchebags.) The reason f... (read in full...)

If he wants anal then go gay!

Q.   What is up with guys wanting to try Anal!! I am tired of every single guy i have dated wanting to try it. I am a girl I have a vag... If he wants anal go gay!!... Please explain how a guy sticking his dick in a butt hole with poop coming out of be ...

A.   14 May 2009: Anal sex is fun if it's done right. I've had it a few times. A woman has a lot of nerve endings in her anal passage. It can be as pleasurable for her as vaginal sex. If not more so. You can easily clean out your ass beforehand if you are worri... (read in full...)

Why was I wrong to entice older men?

Q.   I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...

A.   14 May 2009: ilovecookies, as to enjoying my childhood, well other kids bored me. They really did. I was never interested in dolls or 'playing house' or any of that other stuff when I was a kid. When I was a teenager, while my classmates were hanging out... (read in full...)

Is his "number" too high?

Q.   My boyfriend recently told me that he has been with 7 girls and he lost his virginity at 17. He is 23 and I am almost 20 and have only been with 2 people in my life. I know he is telling the truth because I overheard him telling his guy frie...

A.   14 May 2009: 7? *snort* His true number is closer to 3. Both men and women lie about their number of partners. Men exaggerate ("I've been with 20 Chicks!! Yeah!!" means he's been with 1 woman, if that, and his hand is his constant companion). In general,... (read in full...)

Why was I wrong to entice older men?

Q.   I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...

A.   13 May 2009: ilovecookies, I thank you. It was not my intention to become aggressive. I can sound that way at times, but understand that I do not intend such. So far, you have illustrated the singular legitimate objection, morally, that I have heard thus far... (read in full...)

Why was I wrong to entice older men?

Q.   I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...

A.   13 May 2009: I did not choose the thread title, and i don't really like it. Now then, I don't have any doubts at all I've never regretted my actions for a moment. I am interested from a philosophical standpoint if people can jutify, morally, the att... (read in full...)

What is it like to swallow semen?

Q.   What is swallowing like? I want to swallow my bf's semen but I'm kinda afraid because some people say they gag. What do they gag from? Do they gag from the taste? or the semen going in their mouth and down their throat? I have horrible gag ...

A.   9 March 2009: Every woman is different. Personally, I like swallowing cum, but that is me. Some do not. Some women gag. I personally never have, but as I said, everyone is different. Only way to find out is to try it. ... (read in full...)

My b/f insists to have sex with me, I'm underage, should I give in?

Q.   im 14 and i have a 18 year old online boyfriend, but every time we chat online he says that he wants to have sex with me, but i kind of want to have sex with him but im not sure if i should, so should i have sex with him or not?...

A.   9 March 2009: Age has nothing to do with it. Readiness does. THey are not the same thing. If you are ready, you will know. If you have any doubts at all about your readiness, you are not ready. Don't let him pressure you into anything. You should never do ... (read in full...)

I found porn on his PC, young girls about 14 years old and it's freaking me out.

Q.   I should first mention that I have recently been pretty down, dealing with stress, sadness, and so forth. It is taking it's toll and making me suspicious and irritable. My boyfriend and I are in our twenties, and we have been dating for 3 years. On ...

A.   9 March 2009: First off, I really wish people would stop misusing the term paedophile. Paedophilia refers to sexual attraction to PREPUBESCENTS. Which means CHILDREN, I.E. those who have not yet reached puberty. Not all paedophiles are child molesters. Most don't ... (read in full...)

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