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writes:Are there any men out there that have NEVER cheated on their girlfriend, or wife?I mean - no form of cheating. No online flirting, no emotional cheating .. etc.If so, what made you stay faithful?
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (14 December 2011):
 women cheat too.... for the exact same reasons as men.
Therefore women dont cheat for the same reasons
* they love their partner
* they respect themselves and their partner
*even if they have fallen out of love with their partner they respect themselves too much to purposefully string someone along... better to end it first before looking elsewhere
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2011): 48, married 19 years, never cheated, had opportunities, never took them, been horny the entire time.
Why not?
Because, very simply, I love my wife and family and know the devastation it would cause first hand...
I don't want my wife to ever feel that pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): For me it actually is not to do with my wife, but with myself: when I am on my death bed and I look back on what I did with this life, do I want to see a lying, cheating, selfish, hurtful person? Or do I want to know that I did my best to live an honorable life, to have brought positivity, that I enhanced the lives of those around me - not undermined their senses of security, love and happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): Who cares if your partner cheated or not? It's irrelevant to how you see yourself... are you the kind of person who cheats or who keeps their promises in good times and bad times? I've never cheated through 2 marriages where both wives cheated, one with a girl. I think of it and dismiss it because I want to not be the kind of person who responds to adversity and betrayal by engaging in the same type of behavior that triggered the betrayal in the first place. What are we - lemurs?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): ok its my one year anniversary next week with my girlfriend and I'll tell you my reasons to be faithful:1) Love- I love my girlfriend, why cheat? Why hurt her? As her boyfriend it's my job to make her life better not worse.2) Emotional Satisfaction- My girlfriend is NOT an abusive, confidence killer girlfriend. She lifts me up, raises my confidence, and supports me in my times of need.3) Physical satisfaction- This has nothing to do with skill or anything. My girlfriend and I have this idea that we are made to satisfy each other. I focus on her pleasure, she focuses on mine, therefore no one is ever unfulfilled. * IF more people did this, we'd all have better sex4) I never flirt with any girls because I know many guys that do and I think they are jerks. I even avoid it in "friendly flirting" situations. Most conversations I have with girls are super platonic/regarding school, news, etc5) The last reason people don't cheat is the way they are themselves. I don't want to ever cheat because I see it as pointless. Steady girlfriend.. one night stand? What sounds more worth it? If something isn't working, I talk to my girlfriend about it. She does the same. We work to fix it. At the rate we're going I don't see us ever breaking up. And we're only 19. We were hurt by others early in life and for that reason we don't seek to hurt others. There are men out there who don't cheat, it's your job to find them.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (3 October 2011):
I have never cheated, even when I KNEW my now ex-wife was cheating on me. I remained loyal to her through years of marital problems. So it wasn't affection for her or a lack of interest in other women that kept me from cheating. That went away long before the relationship actually ended.
For me, it is a matter of principle. I do not allow myself to cheat. It would be hypocritical of me, since that is something I won't tolerate in a partner. I figure that if I want someone who values monogamy as much as I do, then I better show it by being that way myself.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 October 2011):
 ... Women cheat too, why is this question directed only at men? Women cheat too, and for the exact same reasons I believe. And with that logic, women remain faithful for the same reason men stay faithful: love and respect.
Selfish and self centered people cheat. Because they do not see the harm in it, they do not see how it can hurt their partner/they don't care if they hurt their partner.
But you can never guarantee anything, love is a gamble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): I have to agree, I was married for 14 years, I had the opportunity to cheat multiple times but didn't because a) I loved my wife and b) it's something you just don't do.
Now I wish I had because she cheated on me with my so called best friend. It's not just guys, it's girls too, everyone's as bad.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (3 October 2011):
 i am committed to my wife and her alone, i love her . without trust we have nothing. i am responsible for my reactions and no one else, wither i do right or wrong it is me that doe's it. she has never given me a reason to cheat and if she did i still would not find it in myself to cheat on her, it is what lies in the heart of a person.
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reader, N91 +, writes (3 October 2011):
 Isn't that obvious? They love their partner and aren't interested in anyone else.
Simple as that.
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