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writes:i need some help. two days ago i found out my b/f has been looking up porn pictures of young girls on sites and downloading pictures (between the ages of about 8-13). i feel soo angry. i dont know what to do, we've talked about it and he apologised. i just dont know why he would even feel attracted to those innocent little girls. it sickens me. he doesnt think its porn (he says porn is just two people having sex, i said its anything that stimulates him). im so upset because i love children so much, he even has a daughter who is 9years old (not living at home). can someone please help me, im so confused and upset over this its making feel physically sick. i hate adult porn, but child porn , i just dont understand, and to me its the worst most despicable form of pornography.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (15 May 2011):
You can't "transform" him. You can't make him stop. If he is sexually attracted to children then that's who he is attracted to. There is nothing you can do, to change that. It's like trying to make a gay person be straight, or vice versa.
You need to contact the police. Children who end up in pornography are being abused, and by downloading this kind of material, you are creating a demand for these paedophiles to abuse and film their victims. By doing nothing, you are knowingly allowing this abuse to happen.
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reader, confusedgirl03  +, writes (15 May 2011):
Hi there, i have the same problem, thats why i'm here, im trying to browse for an answer...i found my bf watching child porn 2 times and it sickens me to death, i want to leave but he said he wont do it again problem is, i already caught him twice, i too dont know if i should just let him convince me he can change, or what...can someone who's addicted to sick fantasies be changed in a blink of an eye? Or what are the steps to transforming him bcoz i love him but if theres no chance then i'm leaving his sick ass and his fantasies behind! sorry i wasnt able to help answering...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): Before consulting the police, how about escalting your reaction in order? How about helping admit he did it, admit he has a problem, and then seek a psychologist or counsellor. If he has in any way sexually abused his daughter, or any other child, then yes, u need to call the police. But if he's just looking at it, then (in my opinion) u dont need to go to right to level 5.. It's like in combat, you can't just shoot a man who mentally wants to kill you, but hasn't shown any signs that he IS ABOUT to kill you.I'm sure he knows he has a problem, but is it possible to seek help first? Just another opinion though.
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reader, love-him +, writes (9 May 2007):
 i think the best idea is to contact the police, this problem may escalate to a rape. i was raped at the age of 12 and think about it, if u did nothing to stop this man hurting innocent little children he may end up doing that. i am sorri to put in that way, but u realy need to report him. i am now 16 and i still have nightmares as my rapist has never been cuaght, dont let that happen to someone else, hope i helped, x x x
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reader, michelle000  +, writes (30 April 2007):
I agree about calling the police. This is a lot worse than porn. Not only is it very illeagal, it's very disgusting. I would never be able to be with some one that likes to look at little girls. It's soooo wrong.
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reader, Midge +, writes (30 April 2007):
 A phone call to your local police station is in order. If this is what he's like at this age, can you imagine what he would be like in a few years to come when his sexual urges are hightened.
You local police station will be very helpful and give you the best advice possible. You will be doing the right thing, not only for him, but for all the little girls and boys out there too!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (30 April 2007):
 I'm sorry, but waterloo sunset is right. If you don't feel comfortable shopping your boyfriend however, please ring an advice line and explain the problem to them and see if there are any other issues. People who watch child porn have a serious problem, often one they can't help. That's why some of them end up going after children, they just can't help themselves. He has a daughter, maybe some day the two of you will have one too. You shouldn't feel responsible for his actions but if he ever did anything you would have to live with it. Do something now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): Contact the police. Sorry, but this is the only way to deal with him. This is totally unacceptable behavour and he need to be repremanded severely for it and tell the cops is the only way. Porn is not just about two people having sex. This is sick and i can understand just how you feel about it all.Kids aged 8-13, that is so awful. Tell him to stop now. But personally i would get to the cops informed.
Take care and don't put up with this.
xx
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