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writes:I am quite jealous of another girl my boyfriend knows. I know this girl is a big flirt and I've seen her flirt with my boyfriend several times. About 3 people have told me that this girl has told them that she really likes my boyfriend. Problem for me is, my boyfriend and a couple of his friends are going away this whole weekend to visit friends and out to parties and a whole bunch of stuff and I found out this girl is going with them. Doesn't help either that me and my boyfriends relationship isn't at its best at the moment. It's kind of hard to explain but it's just not going all too well right now. So basically to put all of this together ; this weekend, my boyfriend is going to be around this girl who I've seen is very flirty with him and seems to like him a lot. (me and her don't really get along by the way). I cannot go because I have to work a lot this weekend. She has already tagged my boyfriend in quite a flirty status on facebook saying how she can't wait to see and be with him and his friends this weekend. I can't help but to worry about this. I know I probably sound crazy but I just don't want to lose my boyfriend and I know she will probably be flirting with my boyfriend and stuff. I just don't know what's going to happen this weekend.How do you guys personally deal with girls flirting with your boyfriends or a girl who has a crush on him?and most importantly, how can I stop worrying and stressing over them going out this weekend?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 April 2013):
 How do I deal with stupid girls flirting with my husband?
Easy, I laugh at them. My husband is so not looking for a new partner or a bit on the side that any attempts to flirt with him (including cleavage in his face) is met with the “deer in the headlight” look from him. He has no clue they are hitting on him. I know it and it’s entertaining to me to watch them try so hard… the younger they are the better…those are the clueless ones about flirting and are so not subtle I have no clue how he does not get it.
How can you stop worrying and stressing?
Sadly YOU can’t. YOU don’t’ TRUST your boyfriend or your relationship with him. You have said that your relationship isn’t at it’s best.
My question to you is why is your boyfriend planning a co-ed weekend getaway without you? That would bother me more than some stupid girl trying to get my man. SHE is not your problem. HE IS. The only thing you can do is tell him that HIS reactions to her behavior upset you. You have no control over her and to be honest if you trust him, what she does is irrelevant as his reaction is the key.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): "How do you guys personally deal with girls flirting with your boyfriends or a girl who has a crush on him?"I don't, because my fiancée doesn't allow that kind of situation to develop. It's not up to me to deal with guys who come on to her or have a thing for her, I have to be able to trust that she will stop or prevent that kind of stuff and she always does."how can I stop worrying and stressing over them going out this weekend?"You can't really OP and frankly you'd be a fool to stop worrying. The stage is very much set for a drunken moment of weakness. A woman who pays far too much sexual attention to a guy who hasn't stopped that and you're currently going through some problems in your relationship. That is an exceptionally worrying set of circumstances.You don't say whether you trust him or not OP, or whether he's cheated before or how severe the issues you are having are.But the reality here is there's nothing you can do about it. You have to put your faith in him and hope it doesn't happen. But do try your hardest to resolve any issues that are in your relationship at the moment before he goes.The last thing you want is to send a guy who is unhappy with his relationship off to party with a woman who is very interested in him. No matter how much you trust someone OP, you still don't want him going off to be drunk with her with a sour taste in his mouth, he may in his drunken stupor decide he's needs something to sweeten that up.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (11 April 2013):
 Hi
Well if you can't go with him you will just have to trust him.
Keep busy, even when your not working make sure you have plans for when he's away.
She may like him but he isn't the only male in the group so could be she's just friendly with them all,like one of the lads so to speak.
Its your boyfriend you have to trust,if he wants to cheat he will,if he doesn't he won't, with anyone.If you don't trust him then end it.
Just wish him a great weekend, that you'll miss him, say to ring you when he can and then get on with your weekend
Then when he's back, see if you can sort out the relationship problems you say you have.
Good Luck
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