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writes:My married ex-boyfriend introduced me to his single brother by setting us up on a casual date that wasn't supposed to go anywhere, since he was gonna meet my bestfriend from out of town...Long story short, no matter how it happended it's been 2 months and we're making things work. At this point I'm not concerned with what his brother thinks and I don't think he is either, what I am concerned with is...can this relationship really work? I don't want to put my feelings on the line and expose them so that I can get hurt, I think I'm in love with this guy...I'm 36 and have NEVER felt this way about anyone! By the way...he's 31!!!!! I was married, yet separated from my now ex-husband while I was with the married brother. In the finalization of the divorce I met the single brother, now boyfriend, whom I never knew existed since he lived in another state with his now ex-girlfriend, sheer coincidence...We are now together, wouldn't it seem strange that the married brother, no matter how involved I was with the brother or how much he loved him and was willing to put everything aside, not want me to be there for family reunions, get-togethers with the family...eventhough my boyfriend tells me to let him deal with it...I DON'T WANNA GET HURT, i know i love him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): I would advise against it. I am speaking from experience. I am actually married to my exboyfriends brother. All though I love my husband and our child, its very akward. Its akward at family functions, its just weird.
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reader, Sisyphus  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Of course your ex is going to feel akward having you at family functions and not want you there. Tough luck for him! I totally agree with your boyfriend, that you should attend with him and let your ex sort out his own problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): i think that if your ex really cares about his brother's happiness, he'll get over it. you shouldn't care about what he thinks, he can't keep his family from accepting you. it is a bit of a sticky situation, but he'll get over it.
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