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writes:I just let my boy friend move in with me because he didn't have a place to move to, so we agreed we would split everything 50/50. It has been 2 days and he works a lot so we don't see a lot of each other. We went to go transfer internet and cable services to my house and he and my daughter got into an argument in the car. So i told him that he needed to back off and he said forget this, i don't want to live with you. and that he can't wait to go to work to get away from me, i never see him. And that made me start to cry, after that he said that he wasn't going to transfer cable and internet service and started to drive off recklessly with my daughter and I in the car. At the stop light i grabbed my purse and my daughter and we got out of car and walked to a nearby lake so he calls and texts and drives by and said get in the car. I said no, and that i would rather walk home, he just drove off. Then my daughter and i started to get cold and i told him to come back and bring us home. He said no because he was already across town and that we would have to wait. Who does that to someone? He has a temper and i am afraid it's gone to far. All his stuff is still in boxes and i told him to just get out when he gets off work because i am appalled at how he just left us like that. I told him i never want to see him again. I feel like someone who would leave my daughter and I like that should not be living with us. I already received half of rent from him and finances are tight but really he was going to have it to his order because of his ocd and it really was driving me bonkers. He said he will be getting his stuff when he gets off work and getting his check for half the rent. Am i being too harsh or did i do the right thing. We have been through a lot and have been together for 2 years. i just want some advice from someone, on whether i should reconcile or let him go, after this bad experience.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 December 2010):
He sounds like the sort of guy that you should NOT have in your life. You and your daughter (particularly your daughter) need to have a stable home life. This guy offers nothing. He'll wind up destroying you and your daughter if you let it continue.
Make it a New Years resolution not to be with a guy who treats you and your child so crappily.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 Is that truly someone you want in your life anyway? Clearly he showed little respect for your daughter, so even you two did eventually 'reconcile', what kind of tension would you be inviting into your life knowing everyday that he might do something irrational or stupid because of an argument. He made you cry and then left you and your daughter out in the cold, what kind of man is that? Certainly nothing you want to let live with you. I do not know how things were these past two years but he obviously bares no concern towards it or the affects of his actions. Just leave him and find another who will make you happy, especially in times like these that are supposed to be full of cheer.
Have a happy new year!
I hope that helps.
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