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writes:I want to do a poll... Is it appropiate that a female friend of my husbands told him about her getting a boob job?Also if there are any other topics you think are taboo to mention to an opposite sex friend when both parties are attached please share.They became friends after I started dating my husband. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): Without knowing this woman or your husband it's impossible to say for sure, but it strikes me as one of those things you WOULDN'T tell someone you were romantically interested in. It's kind of like making a point of telling a guy how much makeup you're wearing, or that your body looks the way it does because you're wearing Spanx or the like. TMI and a turn-off, I would think. Hypothetically, if you had gotten a boob job and were attracted to someone, would you make a point of telling him your breasts were fake? I doubt it :)
How did you find out about it? If he told you, he's probably amused by it and definitely being honest with you to share that, and I doubt you have to worry about him being interested in this woman. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010):
To me, it would depend on the circumstances under which she told him:
On the one hand, if it was a huge change in her appearance, telling her friends outright relieves her discomfort of the "obvious" change--gets it out in the open so to speak. On the other hand, if she's telling him one on one....?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Hm...no I wouldn't see it as a big deal-some people are simply very "open" and able to discuss anything under the sun. Now, if she asked my "husband" to take a feel and tell her if they're as good as real-bodies would drop :p What I don't want a female friend discussing with my husband is her sex life, her marital problems, my marriage with my husband and our sex life, and I just don't want the two of them exchanging thoughts about sex in general-that leads to flirting and before I know it, he's writing to dearcupid, pondering his sexual feelings for his female buddy :p lol. It's healthy to have friends and to talk to them, however, respect is everything. Respect your marriage enough not to give your marital secrets out to friends or to run to them for every problem that could be solved by talking/compromising with a mate and all's well :p I think I'd be a bit amused if my "husband's" friend told him about a boob job...like some said, men prefer the real deal
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 November 2010):
 I don't have a problem with it. If some chick told my husband she got a boob job, it wouldn't bug me unless she whipped them out and let him motorboat them or something. It's a little TMI, but she just might have a bold personality and not mind talking about the crazy way she spent $6,000. And like Aunt Honesty said, fake boobs are not all they're cracked up to be... most guys want the real stuff! Don't feel too threatened. :o)
Laugh this conversation off to a big personality and tacky talk material. Good luck!
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (20 November 2010):
I would say this isn't really taboo. Like aunthonesty said, most guys don't find fake boobs that great. So if she wanted to attract him, it'd work more if she just didn't say anything and flaunted them to him.
And did the boob job happen after they were already friends? Because if it did, then it's not like he wouldn't notice, so she might as well tell her friends that she got one.
I would say taboo subjects or at least subjects to be careful about are about sex: what you like, turn ons, etc. Because it could go beyond just chatting to flirting. But then again, this doesn't apply to everyone or all friends. I wouldn't say there are really definite taboo subjects, just as long as everyone is being appropriate and the partners are fine with it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Im sure she didnt mean any harm in telling him this, most guys dont find fake boobs attractive they prefer the real deal, am pretty sure she probably just mentioned it to him as a friend.
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