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writes: I need advice on how to deal with my parents.You see,I am an african american and so are my parents.my mom is 41 and my dad is 53,so theyre old-fashioned people.I am very much into rock music(hardcore,punk rock,christcore..etc)the emo/scene/gothic subculture,and most of the time im attracted to white boys but not all the time.My parents figure that im prejudice against black people,but thats not true at all,i hang out with ALOT of black people and honestly ill be attracted to any guy despite their race.I listen to all types of music but i listen to rock more because the lyrics and the vibe the songs and beats give off are meaningful to me and i can relate to the angst.im into emo/scene kids because i think theyre beautiful and unique,they embrace their flaws,and theyre not afraid to be who they are and I aspire to be like that someday.I have this friend at my school and he's white and we're close but my parents want me to stop hanging out with him.they say he's white trash and that he's bad news but they dont even much know him.i mean his life is rather troublesome but he's a good kid and he always looks out for me and i just dont see why i cant hang out with different races because im black.What does race have to do with anything? They dont like it when i wear black nails because they think its gothic,but everyone does that,plus,they dont even much know what goth or emo is,they only know what it looks like and it ticks me off how they try to tell me that this isnt me when they're not even me.I tried talking to them over and over but nothing seems to work and im sick of this prejudice crap.i wish that they would just accept me for who i am.please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUmm hi me again,i kinda...get it now what they're trying to do.They know that racism and being prejudice is wrong and they know that I'm different and they know that I'm not like them but all they're trying to do is teach me the reality of the situation.Racism is always gonna be out there.There's always gonna be a white person who gives other white people a bad name just as there will be other people who will give their races a bad name.Apparently they think that my friend is one of those people and they're trying to protect me from being hurt and they're trying to get me to learn that most people dont care about how other people are.They dont care how kind,how beautiful,how intelligent,how forgiving,or how accepting and understanding you are,people are still gonna take advantage of you and do you wrong and they just dont want me to ever have to go through that kind of pain. Hopefully,I pray,that they'll accept who I am still but right now there's really not much I can do unless I wanna get fussed at again
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 you are who you are just put your foot down.. your parents are being bullies but they cant make you do anything. Bill Gates parents probably didnt want him to hang out with the nerds. dont even waste your time there just stubborn.. what can they really do about it nothing so dont.. you cant make them accept your life style but you can cut them out of your life.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Ok it sounds to me like your parents just want the best for you, but its not fair of them to tell you to stop being friends with a white guy, especially if they dont know him. At the end of the day skin colour should not matter this day in age, we are all together in this world and we are born whatever colour we are born with this shouldnt matter or stop us from hanging out with different races or cultures.
It sounds to me like your parents are just set in there ways and they dont understand you or the whole emo thing, therefore its unknown to them and they dont like it, am afraid there is not a lot you can do here but to tell them that this is who you are, and its what you believe in, ask them to respect your decisions even though they dont understand them. Its the only thing you can do, parents arent always going to agree with what there children are doing, am afraid you just need to accept this, but carry on with your life in what you believe in and most importantly just be yourself and show them that you still love them no matter what and that you are still there daughter. Goodluck.
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