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female
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writes:My problem may sound ridiculous to most, but I'm really hoping some can understand or relate. I'm having problems with my boyfriend and his female friends who he talks to on Facebook. About half of them he knows in real life, and half of them he has met online or through gaming. There are like 5 or so girls my boyfriend chats with on there who keep flirting and coming onto him, making comments on his photos saying he's sexy, stuff like that.My boyfriend usually tells me when this happens, and says he'll just brush it off or change the subject. I know this sounds bad, but I'm beginning to wonder if he's flirting with these girls or giving them the wrong kind of signals or attention. There were a couple messages on there I saw and he was being very friendly to these girls. I notice he's on facebook a lot, even on his break at work sometimes, and I automatically think he's talking with one of those girls. If it were possible, I would just straight out tell him I'm tired of all of these girls on his Facebook and all of the flirting and how bad it's making me feel. Because this is how I honestly feel but I can't say something like that.My boyfriend tries to reassure me that nothing is going on with any of them, they're just friends, he's just trying to be nice or friendly with them, I've heard just about every excuse. And my boyfriend is really nice and social, but I'm not okay with all of the flirting, and I'm not sure what's really going on through this Facebook thing.Is this something guys usally do, like is it an ego thing with them when girls flirt with him? Does my boyfriend like the attention? I try to give my boyfriend all of the attention in the world so I don't know why he wants to get it from other girls, don't really know what exactly is going on but I'm pretty suspicious.
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reader, Bambi_x  +, writes (1 February 2014):
My reply might not be the best but it's how I work. My ex boyfriend deleted Facebook because it causes to many arguments between us. But if I kept it up I would copy his actions, just as a tester to let him know how it feels. I believe in treating others how you want to be treated, so I'd do this back as a taste of his own medicine. I don't agree with the flirting online or girls calling him sexy, it's natural to feel jealous over this, how would he feel? On the outside view, you should be proud that one of the girls thinks your boyfriend is sexy and he's yours. But I knew from the inside I'd be boiling with rage, jealous, I'd check her out, if she's attractive or not I'd still be annoyed but at the same time it's natural for people to think he's sexy like guys will think that about you in person too but we don't always say it. I'd be really annoyed too at the fact he's checking it at work and not replying to me first, I've experienced that. Facebook is bad for relationships I think. It's nice to think other people find you sexy other then your boyfriend/girlfriend tho so will be an ego boost for him. He prob will be saying it back.
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