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female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend broke up with me just under 2 years ago. I had liked him for a year before we went out and when we finally got together i was the happiest person around. Around 7 months after the very awkward breakup, we started talking again just normally as friends, the same as before we went out. Of course i still see him every day at school so i can hardly ignore him. The problem is, ive fallen in love with him again, and whenever he isnt there, everythings boring (as cliche as that may sound, ts true). I'm worried that im a bit obsessed and cant cope without him. I also dont know what to do about still liking him. We talk a lot every day, sometimes more to each other then our close friends (and thats not just a one way thing). My friends both say there is a lot of flirting going on but i'm not sure. I want to try again to show him that ive changed (we broke up because i was too shy, as he was my first proper boyfrind and i didnt want to annoy him by dragging him away from his friends). Will he be able to tell that ive changed? and is there any chance that we may try again? Any advice would be greatly appreciated (as i cant talk to any of my close friends about this: they hate that i still like him and get annoyed whenever i even mention his name, let alone ask for advice). He's a good friend, and i dont want to make everything awkward and go another 7 months with no communication. Please help me xox
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2015): For your own good, it's not good to obsess over any boy. Two years ago you were between 10 and 13 years old. Of course you've changed since. You're now a teenager, and more outgoing and aware of your feelings.
He's also a little older and getting to know you again. Don't force anything. You'll feel a lot better if you didn't pressure yourself trying to win him back. If he wanted you back, it wouldn't take much effort. I think he's just happy being friends for old times sake. So don't stress yourself.
Just let things happen naturally. If he still has any feelings, he wouldn't hesitate. Relax and give things time. If you seem too anxious, you'll spook him away. He's got to be mature enough to realize you were basically just a shy
little girl. Just don't over-focus on just one boy. You really need to get know other boys who like you, and you don't have anything to prove.
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