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writes:So the deal is, "Nessy" has been pregnant for 3 months with her boyfriend of 2 weeks before sex (not under my advice). Anyway, she confirmed she was pregnant with several pregnancy at home tests, as well as missed period. Now, three months into the pregnancy, she Is spotting, lightly. Should she go into a doctor? Neither she nor I have been pregnant before and she doesn't really want to go into a doctor because her mother knows all of the natality doctors at our areas only hospital and she hasn't told her mom yet. Does this mean she's lost her baby, not really pregnant, no problem, or she should go into the Drs??
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Her mother is going to find out in a few months anyway. It is now time to be brave, act like the grown up and tell a grown up. The baby needs antenatal care which she should be getting anyway.She needs to see a doctor ASAP. No kidding.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 March 2011):
 There is 100% nobody here who can tell you what is going on with your friend. She needs to go see a doctor immediately. IMMEDIATELY. Spotting a bit can be normal, but it also could be indication of a miscarriage. It can probably mean a slew of other things, but I am not a doctor. She needs to see someone who can look at her and give her a professional opinion. Don't waste time, hustle over to the office pronto! Good luck!
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reader, Battista  +, writes (6 March 2011):
She MUST go to the doctor.This sort of bleeding doesn't mean she is losing the baby for certain, but it could do. If something were to happen to the baby and she doesn't seek medical advice, she could also be at risk herself from infection. It shouldn't make any difference whether her mum knows all the obstetricians in the area as your friend is entitled to patient confidentiality, and if her mum were to find out through them then your friend would be entitled to make a formal complaint which would be a VERY serious matter.I am sorry but the end of your question makes me despair."Does this mean she's lost her baby, not really pregnant, no problem, or she should go into the Drs??"Even if we were qualified Obs and Gynae doctors on here, none of us can give you an answer to those questions except the last one, which is a resounding YES. We cannot say whether your friend is not really pregnant based on post on an internet forum. That is what Obstetricians are trained to do, and your friend needs a medical examination.Incidentally, knowingly being pregnant without informing your doctor is a very dangerous thing to do because it is really jeopardising the health of the baby. You friend will need regular check ups, etc, to see that both she and the baby are doing ok.Assuming that your friend is the same age as group as you (18-21 according to the post), she needs to really take responsibility and grow up here. If she is pregnant she herself is going to be a mother in the near future, yet she doesn't want to tell her own mother she is pregnant. The safety of her pregnancy is now her priority. She is an adult not a child and needs to take adult decisions.Incidentally, does the bf of 2 weeks know she is pregnant?
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