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writes:hiya i need help ppl...i met this boy through the internet and he seems reali nice and i know this might sound crazy but i think i might have feelings for him...but the only problem is that my mates are telling me that he is only after sex..but i know he isnt and they are trying every excuse to stop us from talking...what can i do..im reali confused coz i really like him and want to meet him but i need some advice first...!!please help..??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 He is 16 and not someone who is 30 something or a paedophile.
That is why you need to find out the truth and not just
listen to people whose intentions are good but who wrongly
applied their knowledge.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Yes, do let us know, it will be interesting to see what the results are.Thanks for the update and good Luck.xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis guy is 16 and my friends do know him but now iv found out tht some of them have been trying to stop us from talking because they are trying to get him back with his ex. shall i write a reply to tell u what happens??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis guy is 16 and my friends do know him but now iv found out tht some of them have been trying to stop us from talking because they are trying to get him back with his ex. shall i write a reply to tell u what happens??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Hunnie there is good and bad in everyone!
Theres mean people out there, perverts, peadophiles, rapists and all the rest of them, but theres also genuine people out there that just want to make friends. my best friend met her guy on bebo, she spoke to hiim for nearly 6 months till they met and now theyve been going out with each other for nearly 2 years, some of these people may be genuine although u do get the freaks that have nothing better to do with their time!!
if you wanna go meet this guy i say you take your best friends with you, after all theyre just trying to look out for a friend, thats what friends do!
Goood Luck x
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (22 March 2008):
I would agree completely with Flynn24.
He has given an unbiased opinion.
There are good and bad people everywhere.
If people tell you not to go , then it is like , you should
stay at home and never come out because there are so many
bad people on the street.
Does that mean that you should never venture out of your house?
Not everyone in the internet is a paedophile.
That is a very lopsided view .
If you want to meet him , know the safety precautions.
Do not go alone .
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Big Sis and Miss C are right, he could be a paedophile pretending to be a teenager. Your friends are more streetwise than you and is only protecting you from this person. Don't you think you are too young to think about boys, have fun with your friends on the outside as oppose to having fun online. There are very dangerous people online ready to manipulate and harm young girls and boys.
So take care and don't do anything that will bring danger to yourself. Dusky xxxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): Your friends are just doing their duty and be thankful they care enough to be worried.The internet is a wonderful tool for dating. It can lead to people who might never have previously looked at each other falling in love.This is because of it total anonymity. When you log on, the screen and nature of the internet hides you. You can be who you want, without fear of rejection. Because it is easy to get over being rejected by a computer. And because you don't have the fear you normally have, you are free to bare your soul and free to develop relationships.It CAN work.But the same advatages are curses. People can be cruel and mean, and doubly so when there is little risk of being discovered.Predators can be whoever they need to be when talking to you. They can be a sweet, wonderful teenager, and sophistcated adult or a sly and cheeky seductress. Anything they sense will get into your heart.And they can do this easily because you bare your soul because of that lack of fear. You open your heart to them and they use it to their advantage. You fall for them, trust them and then they can betray those things and this can lead to abuse upon meeting.So you see. Net dating is a two sided coin. You can meet all sorts of people, wonderful and terrible. The catch is that with the anonymity of the internet, it becomes harder to figure out which is which.So be careful and under no circumstances meet this man alone at first. Go with friends, let parents know where you are and make sure you will be missed if something happens so it doesn't tak long to track you.Above all, don't give trust blindly. That priveledge must be earned.All the best.Flynn 24
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Go to youtube and watch "to catch a predator".
Be really careful out there.
There is no such thing as being to paranoid on the web.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (21 March 2008):
You say he's a boy, how old is he? Can you be sure he is the age he says he is, have you spoken on the phone? Or even seen on him webcam? There are hundreds of weirdos out there, he may not be one of them, but you hear all these stories on the news, don't fall victim to strangers who pose as youngsters.Take the other Auntie's advice and don't do it. It's not safe. We want you to stay safe. Take care, Hon. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): PLEASE HUNNY DO NOT MEET HIM! i know personally this is not a good idea! listen to your friends! tell your mom! do NOT meet him hunny please he will hurt you and much worse!
hannah xxx
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reader, Krystelle +, writes (21 March 2008):
i think your friends are trying to protect you. these days you never know for sure if people are really who they say they are. dont get mad at your friends if they say stuff like hes just after sex. they could be true. he could be just sweet talking you for now.
who knows?
i wouldnt advise on meeting him. no matter how long youve known him really its not safe. but if you do be sure to bring a friend along INCASE something goes wrong. not saying it will but just to stay safe.
alot of people we meet on the internet these days arent safe. i read one story where it turned out to be the girls father who was teaching her a lesson. the point is you never know for sure. even if youve seen them on webcam it proves nothing.
its not crazy at all for having feelings for him. maybe hes an amazing person to talk to. its not out of the ordinary. just stay safe and dont push your friends away for protecting you.
good luck
xoxo
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