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Is it wrong that I don't want my husband's nephew around anymore?

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Question - (9 March 2012) 10 Answers - (Newest, 11 March 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

my husbands nephew is down right disrespectful and disgusting and rude. he talks like a sailor, and spits chewing tabbaco and tells his friends he want to have sex w/ me. i hate it when he comes to our house to help my husband work, he not only is a bad influence on our kids but he has herpes as well and hes one of those i dont care who gets it types, and i hate it so much when he gives the kids good bye kisses and stuff, how do i know if hes having in out break or not?i told my husbend i dont want him at the house, hes gotten my 2yr old in the spitting habbit now and she scream the f word when ever where ever. my husband says im just being rude and parranoid, but i see it as looking out for my children. is it wrong that i dont want him around?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012):

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easier said then done, hes w/my husband now going to pick up a car then back here to work on it.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (10 March 2012):

Miamine agony auntYour husband and the car can go to his house, or if he car can't move, then there is no reason he has to come in the house at all, just treat him like a mechanic, he fixes car and then leaves. The house is for you and the kids to live in peace.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2012):

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he is around me and my children because hes a 20yr old high school drop out w/ no licence so when he comes over to simi help my husband fix a car or work or build on somthing he normally sleeps over and that means access into my home, which is why hes around us.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2012):

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thank you all for your advice, i will talk to him tonight he plans on bringing him overto help w/ a car hes fixing.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (9 March 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntHe sounds like a jerk... that kind of jerk that you (or ANYBODY!) would like to not have around. WHY is he "around" you (and your kids), anyway?????

Tell Hubby that his nephew isn't welcome in your world (your family's world) and insist that he live by that.

Good luck....

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (9 March 2012):

Danielepew agony auntNo, it's not wrong that you don't want him around. He has to go.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (9 March 2012):

Honeypie agony auntNo, it's certainly not wrong for not wanting him around. I would sit down and talk to your husband. if he still wants to hang out with him, it should be elsewhere.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2012):

Maybe your Hubby is fine with Nephew being an uncouth Pig, but your kids deserve better.

I agree you have a duty as their Mother to say Nephew is a contentious, mean hearted influence and he is no longer welcomed into our home and around our kids.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (9 March 2012):

Miamine agony auntNope, he behaviour is a bad influence on your child, he is old enough to behave better but chooses not to. You as a mother have to do what is best for your kids, until he acts in an appropriate manner your well in your rights to tell him he's not welcome. It's you the school and childcare will blame when your children turn into uncontrollable monsters.

Tell you husband you don't want him around the kids unless he starts acting better. How the hell can you discipline your kids if they can say "it's all right cause uncle nephew does it all the time..."

Not sure about the herpes thing either... but have a word with the doctor about this, and the likelihood of transmission... If the kids display unsuitable behaviour or catch adult diseases, governments get worried and start asking you all kinds of questions... you have to always keep the kiddies safe, explain your fears in these terms to your husband.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (9 March 2012):

eyeswideopen agony auntI think you are perfectly within your rights as a parent. Hold your ground on this one. Everyone should be very careful to pick their battles carefully but in my opinion this is a battle that derserves to be fought.

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