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Is it time for me to give up on finding love?

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Question - (26 July 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 July 2016)
A male United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Hello there, I am a 21 year old college student with NF1 (Neurofibromitosis Type 1). I have never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or even flirted with a girl. My parents are still really protective over me and are really suspicious of what I do (why is beyond me), so this would make dating awkward. But I currently have to live with them due to certain circumstances outside my control. Recently I have been thinking that I may be doomed to a life of loneliness. All around me I see couples PDA or laughing together over a meal and although I try to be happy for them I seem to find myself falling apart with sadness that it will never be me.

People always tell me:

"You are a nice guy"

"Any girl would be lucky to have you"

"It will be your turn next (getting married)"

So in closing;

Is it time for me to give up on finding love?

Could or should I date someone without my parents knowing?

Look forward to the response

I hope this is clear enough to understand

Apologies for the long winded rant at start

Thank you

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 July 2016):

Honeypie agony auntAbsolutely, agree with BrownWolf here.

People live and love with ALL kind of diseases, issues etc. Why give up on things before you have even tried to see if it's for you?

I don't think your parents would want you o become a hermit for the rest of your life. They are just over protective because they are your parents and worry about you.

I had to look up Neurofibromitosis Type 1 to see what it was and I don't really see ANYTHING that would tell me you can't have a relationship. What you have is not contagious or fatal, t is what it is and that is a part of your life. It's not a part that is eliminating you from dating.

We ALL have "flaws" - every single one of us. It's part of being human.

Live life, enjoy life.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (27 July 2016):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI think it's time you STARTED listening (more) to what "people" tell you... and spend just about NO time wondering "...Is it time for me to give up on finding love?"

Love is an interesting phenomenon. Just when you think you haven't got a chance.... that "Miss Right" happens by, likes what she sees in you, and before you know it, you and she are in "item".....

Don't believe you should give up... as long as you are breathing....

Good luck....

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (27 July 2016):

BrownWolf agony aunt"Neurofibromitosis Type 1"

What does this have to do with you getting a woman?? Even blind people have wife and kids, that they will never see.

What kind of person are you? Are you the kind of man you would want to hang out with?

Yes, any woman maybe lucky to have you, but what are you doing to get one? Are you living on dating sites and not leaving the house to go find one? First mistake....Women are real, and life is not found on your phone or a computer monitor. How did people meet people before the internet?

You sitting there feeling bad for yourself is not going to send off some signal, so that women close by will come running to date you.

I had women writing me "I love you" "You are so sweet" on my coffee cup lid from McDonalds drive through window. Why?? Because I said good morning and treat them the way I would like to be treated. After a week of speaking to these people as humans and not some lower class subjects...guess what? They could not wait for me to come through in the morning.

The point of that story...Meeting a woman is not limited to a dating site. You meet people everyday, a smile, a "hi" and "hello", eye contact, goes a long in not only building your confidence, but puts you in a position to meet your future wife.

Funny...You are looking for love, yet want to give up on the very thing you are complaining you don't have.

As for your parents...bringing home a good woman will ease their fears :)

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