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writes:I met this girl a while back on a movie set we were both production assistants. Well we chatted during the downtime for about 2 hours. she was really cute and cool. Well, after hitting it off with her i felt bad cuz she was leaving for Tanzania for 2 months to educate kids on AIDS. Well, she came back a few weeks ago and I gave her my number on facebook and she gave me hers. We've texted a few times, but whenever I invite her out, like say to a movie or something she's always busy. Now granted shes in college and has midterms and stuff, but is she still feeling me or what? I've only asked her out twice, but is it supposed to be this hard to hang out with her? Also, last night my room mate got high and prank called her at some ungodly hour. she didn't answer, but she brought it up in the last text I got from her after asking if she liked the singer i was going to see tonight. So what's the temperature guys? should I just shake the magic eight ball and "Try again Later" or should I just write her off completely?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (23 October 2009):
Okay...after you said that, she's more than likely not interested. If that's not the case then she needs to live a little. All I'm saying is that if a guy that I was definitely interested in asked me to the movies or a concert, regardless if I didn't really like movies or didn't really know the artist, I would still go. It's like you asking her to dinner and saying that she doesn't like dinner. I don't like to eat breakfast, but if a guy I was into asked me to breakfast, I would probably go. If you want to go ahead and try ONE more time, ask her to dinner or lunch. Set a date in advance. Like, "Hey, would you like to go to lunch/dinner with me on Sunday afternoon/night?" If she agrees, make sure you ask what kind of food she likes, you don't want to take a vegetarian to a steakhouse. Let us know how it goes!
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reader, Solidus +, writes (23 October 2009):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hmmm, well when i asked her to a movie, she said she doesn't really like going to the movies that much and that she was already invited to a friends party. And I will give her benefit of the doubt on this fefe dobson concert cuz she didn't know who she was and this was kind of a last minute spur of the moment invite.
But if shes not digging movies, what else can a dude throw at her? I know shes into photography. But i don't see how I could use that to kick it with her.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (23 October 2009):
This could also give you your answer: when you ask her out, does she say she's busy on the night you ask her out BUT she can do it another night? If she's just giving you a "No, sorry I'm busy" answer, then she's not interested. If it's a, "No, sorry I'm busy that night, but how about another night?" Then she's interested in seeing you.
You sound like a nice guy and you were probably right about having a connection, but you never know. She could like someone else right now, be dating someone else, doesn't have time or want to date, or just likes you as a friend.
Ask her one more time and see which answer she gives you.
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reader, DESTINY 23 +, writes (23 October 2009):
 Ask her if she ever gets free time.... Then ask her out but somewhere fun and exciting . Shes got work , school, and helping people . I think somthing for her would be nice . If she tells you she has no time take that as a no and just be friendly and never ask her out agian.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (23 October 2009):
 She's not interested. If I was interested I would have accepted your invitation immediately. Does she have a boyfriend perhaps? She could have given you her number to be polite as I'm sure you're a nice guy.
You don't need to write her off completely but leave her alone for a while, see if she comes looking for you. If she does, there might be some interest but if she doesn't then you know she's not keen.
And no matter what she has going on in her life, people are never too busy to do what they really want to do. being busy is just an excuse.
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