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writes: is it strange for a 24 year old , good looking girl to be a virgin? Some of my friends laugh about it and have told their guy friends who then called me the virgin mary. I like the way I am and am proud, why do others think it strange?? They think i have no confidence in myself because i dont have a boyfriend, but i aint easy and i know wht a want in a guy i just havent found him yet lol.
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (29 October 2012):
 It is unusual as most people lose their virginity before 20, but just because it's unusual does not mean there's anything wrong with it, of your proud and happy the way you are then good for you, keep waiting and one day you'll meet the right person. There's probably a hell of a lot of people our age who wished they had waited longer for the right person.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 October 2012):
 If you REALLY are confident and proud of your virginity, then why would you give a rat's ass about their opinions anyway?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): Nothing is strange in relationships, strange and normal are matters of opinion.
People find it strange that I could so easily be ridiculously promiscuous for years yet I've never cheated nor ever gotten with a girl who is spoken for. People find it strange that my girlfriend was a virgin when we met and she has no problem with the fact we have had such different sexual pasts. People find virginity strange these days OP because sex is supposed to be some fun throw away emotionless past time and it's just supposed to be a given that everyone runs around with their dicks hanging out to stick it into something.
I personally find it far stranger that people would sleep around when they really don't enjoy the aftermath. I mean I've slept with many girls on one night stands and their shame the next day was obvious.
Apparently it's also strange for a woman to enjoy being single, apparently you're incomplete without us men. It's apparently strange that there are guys who won't just sleep with any girl who is available to them and wants to only have sex in relationships.
It's just a load of bullshit social norms, and the people who find anything strange in this sense are sheep, societal drones with no concept of enjoying a different kind of life with different views and goals.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 October 2012):
 It's not strange to be a virgin, if that is a choice you've taken. But it is strange that you don't have a boyfriend, if you actually do want one. A 24 year old pretty woman shouldn't have any difficulties getting a boyfriend. Maybe your standards are too high, or maybe you're not taking initiative enough?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): That reminds me of a story:
A jackal used to steal the farmers chickens every day. One day the farmer caught the jackal and cut its tail.
The jackal was so embarrassed and it couldn't confront other jackals.
But one day, the jackal came up with an idea. It went out and started to make fun of other jackals. "Your tails are so old fashioned! those tails look stupid!"
After a while, other jackals started to "follow the trend" and cut their tails. Now the ugly jackal wasn't alone anymore because other ones looked the same as it.
Do you get it?
Your friends have lost their "tails". You still have your tail, which makes them ...
By the way, those friends of yours and their boyfriends sound like a..holes! I wonder why you hang out with them.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (29 October 2012):
Strange is the word we use when a person's personal choice somehow differs from the socially accepted norm. Your choice does differ from the norm but that's not a bad thing necessarily.
The norm is for people to have sex in their late teens and early 20s, so its a little unusual to not be having sex at your age, but this certainly isn't a bad thing. In fact, in your case it sounds like a good thing because you sound like you have a lot of confidence in who you are, you like the way you look and you are proud of the person that you are. Those are often the reasons why people don't have sex, so that doesn't apply to you, for you it sounds like a personal choice, and your reasons are solid, so I for one support your attitude.
The one thing you mention is that you haven't found a guy who has what you want. I think that's a good thing too, but I have to wonder about how selective you are being, what it is that you think you need a guy to be in order for you to want to have sex with him. Understand that if its perfection you are after, you might live your whole life never finding him, but as long as you understand that, feel free to stick to your standards. Typically, meeting a guy who is really nice, who treats you well, and that you get to know well enough to have feelings for and fall in love is usually enough. There are plenty of good men out there if you have the patience to weed out the unsuitable guys, so its worth thinking about what stands in your way from meeting one. Perhaps there is part of you that doesn't want to, or has a reason for holding you back? Its worth thinking about, but most importantly you're being true to yourself, which counts for more than the rest of it in my opinion.
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