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writes:Ok, so two of the guys I've slept with can't figure out why I have to jump up and stop them before they put their fingers inside me after they just came and, long story short, got a little bit or even a lot of come on their hands. And if I was blowing him or licking up the extras after all is said and done and used my hands in any way, I'm paranoid about my fingers going down there, and I won't touch myself in any way for like 5 days (when I wipe when I pee, I'm just careful there's no skin to skin contact). Furthermore, sometime shortly thereafter I scrub my hands in hot water with soap. This is smart--not overly paranoid--right? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 July 2011):
 I think they might have tried to deliberately kept sperm alive outside the body then. I have a friend who studies medicine and I happened to mention this question to her, and she said the same as I did. It can survive minutes only. And only when wet. I suspect that Mayo clinic has tried to put it to the test to see under perfect conditions, how long can sperm ultimately live.
In either case, like I also said, when the sperm dries it dies, so all you need to do is dry your hands.
Perhaps you also want to consider the birth control pill, in addition to the condoms, that way you wont have to worry about all of this at all and can relax and enjoy the sex more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionVaginal sex isn't the only kind of sex there is, if you think about it, and frankly, I give more blowjobs than regular sex. YES, sperm gets all over his and my hands typically, or at least a little bit. Make sense?Anyway, I went ahead and did some research and according to the Mayo Clinic, the sperm will survive a few minutes to a few hours outside the body, basically confirming my suspicions when it comes to him fingering me. Good to know that I no longer have to wait DAYS, however, just hours.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (1 July 2011):
If he hasn't been getting sperm on his hands his hands wont be able to make you pregnant... Thats what I don't understand here. If you use a condom, then how would the sperm end up on his fingers? I've had sex in my life, but never ended up in that situation. When the condom is on it is on, no need to jump up after he has ejaculated either as the sperm will be in the condom, and not on you. So why would you need to run and wash? How would sperm have landed on your hands??
Once you wash your hands the sperm is gone. It only survive for minutes outside of the vagina/penis anyway!! It dies! It dies almost immediately once it dries up too, so if his fingers are dry, and your fingers are dry (as I assume they do get dry before 5 days have passed), there is no risk what so ever. It's dead and gone by long. Even 5 minutes after sex whatever sperm was anywhere is dead. All he, and you, need to do is dry your hands and it's fine (in case you manage to get sperm on there, still don't see how that happened when he came inside the condom and not on your skin).
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was on the pill for a while, but I can't handle the side effects. If I'm on the pill, I could care less about where his fingers go, where he comes, and all that stuff. However, I'm not. Just condoms, and avoiding sex when I think I'm ovulating. chigirl: Yeah, my ovaries carry my eggs. This is why a man's penis is a great orfice through which to get a woman pregnant because it goes to the right location. Now, when a guy fingers you, as I imagine you already know, his fingers GO TO THE SAME PLACE, your VAGINA. If his fingers might possibly have sperm on them (I pee and wash my hands, and later on shower), who in their right mind would put them in their vagina? All it takes is one little swimmer that I couldn't wash off his or my hands, no? I have no phobia about sperm lol, trust me, just trust me. AS LONG AS IT'S NOT INSIDE MY VAG, quite frankly, which his fingers, with sperm on them, I'd imagine could easily happen!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (29 June 2011):
This is overly paranoid. What are you afraid of? Your uterus carries the eggs, not your hands. Sperm on your hands, or on the hands of your partner, is harmless.
It might be you have a phobia against getting sperm in contact with hands?
However, you can safely touch yourself down there after you've cleaned up. You do clean up after sex right? Either take a shower, or wash with water to clean away the "leftovers"? You'll need to use your hands to rinse properly.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 June 2011):
I think you're a bit paranoid about the 5 day thing - but certainly not about making sure they don't use their fingers if they have sperm on. Are on the contraceptive pill? Because that will give you approx 98-99% security, and might make you feel more comfortable.
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