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*isfit19
writes:There is this guy, we're not together because he said he doesnt want me in that way. But I think I love him so I allow myself to be used in the bedroom by him. Sometimes I hate him, and then when we just talk all day, or we just talk when he is with me we're like humourous. But when I start talking to other boys and he starts talking to other girls we both get jealous. I know I get jealous because I want him, but what is his excuse? Also he feels the need to lie to me when we are not together ... i.e. so did you sleep with her, to which he replies no.. .then she told me yeah. WHY? Is this a male ego thing? xx
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reader, Misfit19 +, writes (23 April 2012):
Misfit19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe is with a girl now, prettier too... he seems happy and althought I am happy for him I don't think I'll ever get over him
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (14 December 2011):
 I would. Whatever his feelings are they aren't strong enough for him to want to have anything exclusive and official with you.
You're still in limbo and nothing will change in the forseeable future, so really what good are his feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2011): He's using you for sex and you want something more so better to find someone else.
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reader, Misfit19 +, writes (14 December 2011):
Misfit19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLast night he said there will always be feelings for me there? so do I just cut the loose strings now?
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reader, Ciar +, writes (14 December 2011):
No, this is not an ego thing. It's a 'string someone along for your own personal use' thing.
Your talking to other boys jeopardizes his access to hassle free sex. That is why he gets uptight. Nothing more.
Please stop analysing his behaviour. You have enough information about him and his agenda to make a decision.
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reader, armyofme +, writes (14 December 2011):
At the risk of massively over-generalising, men can be territorial creatures and can often be prone to jealousy around sexual relationships whether they feel romantically tied to that person or not. For your own sake, I'd not read too much into this. He has said that he doesn't want a relationship with you and I shouldn't think he's lying. If he lies about sleeping with other girls, he could simply be worried about disrupting your arrangement, as it were. If you're not sure, ask him again if he is interested in a relationship and this should put your mind at rest.That you describe him as using you in the bedroom suggests to me that this situation is negatively impacting upon you and your self esteem. I'm not saying this as someone who hasn't been there - please don't sleep with this man again. Don't sell yourself short, no matter how much you like him your self-respect is worth a whole lot more to you in the long run.Good luck =)
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