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writes: I'm a 45 year old divorced mother of two and find myself being courted by a 32 year old man. Is it crazy for me to get involved in a relationship with him? He is the nicest person I've ever known and I am attracted to him. My concern is that after I fall for him he may be attracted to a younger women one day. I must be insecure.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (18 October 2009):
 Love is very special, i believe love is real, you are in love with this man, if you think and feel that he is also in love with you then why stop it! go for it, go for your happiness, dont think of tommorow, think now that you are happy, of course its a risk, its scary all this movie out from our head because of age diffirences is scary, but if you dont go for it how you will know it? If im on situation, i will go for it and enjoy my daily life being in love. being real in love is one of the best thing what's happening in our life isnt it? I wish you good luck and happiness dear.
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reader, jonnyrichards  +, writes (15 October 2009):
I think that if you have a real attraction to him then you should go for it. you say you have children, if he is good with them and you then this is a bonus. and if he really loves you like you love him he wont even look at another woman. i don't feel that age should have anything to do with the relationship, i believe that if you love eachother then the age gap does not have any say!! i hope this helps you to make a ddecision
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): Yes you are insecure. But you have good reason to be so. If you are 45 year old mother of two and you are reeling in young 32 year old men you must be pretty hot with nice personality, I would think. Congratulations on your conquest, My Dear. It is very natural for women to go after somewhat older men. Not as common the other way around. There are biological reasons for this.
Unfortunately, as you two age you may find he is still getting some attention from the young hotties, even though he is not actively pursuing them or trying to betray you. Right now at your stage, things are ok. But wait ten years. A 55 year old grandmotherly type is not even in the same league as a 42 year old good looking man who might be exactly what some hot 28 year old girl has in mind to try to steal from you. And if it comes down to it... you just can't compete with her youth, so don't even try.
Also, for the sake of your children be very careful when you choose to make him permanent. Getting yourself into another bad relationship that ends up in yet another divorce can only put them at risk of getting hurt again.
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reader, DESTINY 23  +, writes (15 October 2009):
 I understand your concrns that age thing is a sensitive subject . I was in two younger men realtionships and it was a lot of fun but a lot of heartache. The sex of course is amazing and there much more free then older men. I will tell you there are men that love older women and it does work. I felt I was on his level as far as looks went I got a lot of looks when we are out and he got none. He was insecure with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): Hi
Yes, you are insecure. But, then it is quite understandable. Don't worry, often relationships last and really, the age difference is not that much. Besides, focus on your present, it is a far-off possibility and if it bothers you so much, ask him. As in tell him exactly what you have told us. As long as the relationship is solid, really, age is just a number. Also, the only thing crazy is you thinking that it is crazy for you to be involved with a younger man! Have you seen anyone raise eyebrows over all those old men lusting after a young woman? You have the honor of being in love! Live it to the max. Joiedevivre!!
Love and God Bless
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