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writes:I am 20 years old, fixing to be 21 in a few weeks.. and I really like this guy who is 17 years old. He can act pretty mature for his age but i'm not sure what others would think? Is it bad for a girl to date someone who is 3 years younger? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): I met my husband when he was 16 yrs. old and I was 24, his older sistr and I were friends I didnt think about going out with him then because I was going thru a divorce at the time and he was just a kid, but after my divorce he would come to his sisters house and we would talk ect.Then when he turned 17 he asked his sister to ask me if i would go out with him I said yes, It was ok with his mom also , we dated for a few monthes and right before he graduated highschool we married, most people said it wouldnt last but it has ,when he turned 21 he adopted my 2 children, he had to wait till he was 21 becauce a minor cannot adopt a minor , to cut a long story short he raisd my 2 children as his own and we had one also and now we have a 10 year old granddaughter,we have been very happy for 33 years.but always remember it takes 2 to be happy.and unless you let age be a factor. its just a number as they say.
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reader, daletom +, writes (24 August 2010):
Look up the discussion in the recent thread, "Older girl dating a younger guy?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/older-girl-dating-a-younger-guy.html . Everything said there applies here, as well.
p.s. - "Sugarbuns", isn't it "statutory rape" only if they engage in sexual acts? Or is "dating" now a synonym for "sleeping together"?
And, I haven't done the legal scholarship but I believe the majority of U.S. states recognize either 16 or 17 as an unconditional age of consent for sexual activity.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 The only problem I see is, you could be charged with statutory rape because he's under age (17) and you over 18 and if his parents decided to press charges you could be facing jail time. The law would not be on your side. It woudl be better to wait until he's 18 to date him officially.
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reader, almc  +, writes (24 August 2010):
Its just a number! My boyfriend is a year and ahalf younger then me, and his brother is dating someone who is 5 years older then him. All that matters is if you both like each other :) don't let age stop you.
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reader, candygirl_iraq  +, writes (24 August 2010):
I am 2 and a half years older than my boyfriend,and we are very happy together!Infact,he doesn't EVER mention my age nor treats me like I am older.If there is love and mutual understanding age is never an issue. go for it I say! I had my doubts at first but I don't regret it now at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): There's been a lot of these questions about recently and I must add again, age is just a number when you're both adults. Of course a lot of people may disagree that one isn't an adult util they're 18. But he's hardly a child like 3 years is hardly a big age gap!
People also tend to have different opinions in the case of a female being the older one in the relationship. Although I find that very sexist.
They say age shouldn't be an issue when you're both adults and love one another. Obviously you do not love this lad. But you like him, so why not give him a try? Who cares what others think when you like somebody? My boyfriends 5 years older than me, and I'm still young. Go for it I say. You never know until you try!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 August 2010):
My girlfriend is more than three years older than me :). She claims her friends are a bit jealous - though maybe she's just stroking my ego. The point is, she's happy with me, and I'm happy with her. So no, there's nothing wrong with it. So long as he's a mature guy, so long as he makes you happy and you feel totally comfortable with him, who care what others think.
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reader, curleywhirlyhurly  +, writes (23 August 2010):
hehehe dnt be silly woman who are older than a man is great i got a sister who is going out with a guy who is 4 years younger plus if you like em go for it life is short xxxx
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