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writes:Okay, I was talking to a guy at a party and we were getting along really well and it got to a point where we were both really drunk, we kissed and got a little playful, (nothing dodgey, just play fighting) and someone walked past and we stopped playing around until they left. we talked aggain and ended up getting on the subject of relationships and girlfriend/boyfriend things. I straight up said i was single and he dodged the bullet but eventually came out that he was in a relationship, but by this time i'd developed slight feelings for him. He says he doesn't love her and that he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, he seems genuine. There's a large age gap, and not saying it's wrong, they just have different life views, they argue a lot cause of it. Do you think it's worth waiting for hiim? Like he is really nice, that's what his mates say (met through a mutual friend) and they all say he's sweet and really nice. I think i know the answer i just need help to decide. Hmph.
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reader, Nikki-Bikki +, writes (12 May 2010):
Nikki-Bikki is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey peoples
Thank you for clarifying that for me. I'm sure there'll be an update soon, i already know his brother hates me. Thank you sooo much for helping.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (10 May 2010):
 He's so sweet and nice is he that he leads other girls on, fools around with other girls all when he has a girlfriend? Sounds like a player to me!
No he is not worth the wait, this kind of behaviour is classic of a guy who is in a relationship but gets bored easily so likes to fool around with other girls. Imagine if you atually do end up going out with him - will you be able to trust him at a party if you have argued recently, he might use the same excuse on the next girl claiming you argue a lot and he is only with you so he doesnt hurt your feelings! If he behaves like this whilst in a relationship then he will do the same if he was in a relationship with you!
If you do not love someone then you wont stay in the relationship - simple as that. Not wanting to "hurt her feelings" is the worst excuse I've ever heard! I'm sure kissing you and flirting with you is way more hurtful to her than being man enough to end it with her!
Look, he is a player, a bit of a cheat and a flirt. He is not going to leave his girlfriend by the sounds of things so dont wait around for a guy that will only end up hurting you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 May 2010):
I already know he's lying to you. He 'doesn't love her, but doesn't want to hurt her feelings'. Seemed happy to kiss you and dodge all those questions. That means that even if he did dump her, he'd do this to you. And your mates say he's nice and sweet? Here is is kissing you when he has a girlfriend. You're being used. No he's not worth waiting around for.
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