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writes:im a 30 year old professional female,i met a guy through work who is older than me and divorced (hes 48) i didnt find him physically attractive but after asking me out a few times i agreed,got on well and formed a relationship and now see each other 3-4 times a week.at first he was quite reserved and polite but noticed he slowly became rude at times and i know it was not necassary,when hes around his friends he will make sexual remarks,mainly about my breasts as naturally they are quite large on a small frame,iv told him i dont like it but its made no difference.he seems to also have a issue on control,he brought up that i wasnt giving him oral sex enough,i took it onboard and started to do this during every sexual session we have,he then insisted that he has to finish in my mouth which im not over keen on but have done it to please him.its now anal sex which i have and still find very painfull,hes not small and not genlte as id like allthough he does always ask if its not too much.my question is do i sound awkward or does he sound needy and hard to please? i want it to work but my patience is wearing thin.k x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): He sounds controlling and demanding. You say you are trying to make it work, but I think you are trying too hard. It could end up an unbalanced relationship. He sounds like an old fashioned sort of guy regarding the jokes, and he is selfish in that he has to be satisfied to his requirements. If you do only what you feel comfortable with, then it may be that the relationship will crumble - but best to know now rather than end up stuck with a man who is not going to make you happy.
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reader, Beccccccy  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 I think he is testing you ...Thus far you have just agreed , I firmly believe this guy is an absolute soft on ...If you want to continue with him ( and thats up to you ) ..Tell him , you will be calling the shots .. Tell him you want some decent Oral .. and hes not getting any until he brings you to an absolute climax .. Tell him , if he makes comment about your breasts in public , you'll " kick his balls hard " .. This guy is testing you ..Show him you are Strong .. GO GIRL ..if thats what you want , the other option is to tell him to " Take a hike " .
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): You deserve way better than how he is treating you!a) any person worth your time should respect when you are uncomfortable about something, so when he makes comments about you to his friends, he should have stopped completely when he found out you didn't like it.b) he should never pressure you into anything sexually, it sounds like he is using you. You just put up with his crap!! Don't hun.If you are uncomfortable about anything sexual you don't need to put up with it, tell him no. If he can't respect that then walk.Goodluck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 March 2011):
He's well beyond needy. He's someone you should probably walk away from.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (12 March 2011):
 He doesnt sound needy to me, he sounds downright aweful. He has no consideration for your feelings on sex, he doesnt respect you when you ask him not to make sexual jokes about you to his friends, its all me me me in the bedroom regardless of it hurting you.
I would be seriously reconsidering if this is really what you want.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 Needy ? He sounds like an overbearing jerk.
Let's pass him the breasts jokes- some people have a weird sense of humour. But please don't engage in sexual acts that you find painful or disgusting. For no man, nice or not.
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