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writes:This is a really long story, so I'll do a short version of it. I was in a relationship with a guy a couple of years ago, but we ended it because we never spent much time together as we were busy with university. But we recently have been meeting up again and we're getting along really well just like we did before we went to university! He's the funniest guy I know and we share an interest in things like Art and travelling. After meeting up with him a lot and basically getting to know him again, I've fallen head over heels with him! But, I've also known his best friend for years and the guy that I really like told me, when I confronted him about my feelings, that his best friend has feelings towards me, so if he started a relationship with me, he might lose his best friend..I can't make him choose me over his best friend, but what really bothers me is what he said next. He said "but I need to tell you something, I also like your best friend, and she once told me that she liked me as well. So if I went with her, my best friend wouldn't hate me." I was sitting there with my mouth wide open. At the time, this was a deal breaker. So I went home angry and crying my eyes out, I mean, how could he? But when I told him what a complete a*s he was, he told me that he never stopped loving me and he likes me more then my friend, but "his feelings didn't matter in this situation". But then the question occurred to me that if he didn't really like my best friend, why is she in this at all? So I asked her what was this all about between him and her and she told me that she never said that she liked him, only that she'd be interested in a date if he ever asked her. So to me, it doesn't make any sense at all. So I asked an other friend if she'd ask him in 'private' what was going on, and he told her that he thought that my best friend was "stunning, beautiful" and that they shared the same interest, but when he came down to me he just said that I'm "pretty" and we kind of have the same sense of humour...and what made me feel second best was that he said if he had a relationship with my best friend, she'd probably break up with him quickly because she'd find someone better and because she's too good for him. And then he said that if he had a relationship with me, I'd be less likely to leave him...seriously, being compered to your best friend and then being voted the worst hurts badly. And hearing that made my relationship with my best friend for a bit just awkward and distant.Recently, as this has been going on for quite a few months, I've been trying to forget about him and just move on but I just can't get myself to forget about him. I thought he was the best thing that ever happened to me but this heart ache is making me love him and hate him at the same time.. So all I want to know is what do you guys think? Do you think that he's making up excuses to be with my best friend or is he just a plain player? Thank you for your taking your time to read this.
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reader, Jayjay24  +, writes (24 August 2012):
 In your situation, sounds to me that he is trying to make you a little jealous. We will never no for sure. Boys have a complicated mind. So, he is just trying to make you jealous basically. No guys would say he loves you and then down grade to something like pretty or cute. No matter what type of boy he is. Unless you did something to him to make him mad. Like start liking his best friend over him. He just wants to make sure that you only love him and not his best friend. But, your best friend on the other hand I don't no about. Maybe they are working together. Like I said boys are complicated when it comes to things like this. Don't over think it to much. If he really loves you he will choose you instead of your best friend.
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