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Is he keeping me dangling, or does he just want to be friends?

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Question - (23 January 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 24 January 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *odie_Babe writes:

Right, Me and my ex boyfriend J broke up due to his violent abuse and cheating on me.

But the night after I broke up with J, I snogged another boy called T at a house party, I partly think it could have just been because I was hurting,

But after that me and T started dating and I really got to love him, and he meant the world.

So I took T home to meet my family, him and my family got along and me and T was very happy together - but one day out of the blue he rang me and ended it with me, because he 'hates' love because all it does is hurt you - obviously I was bewildered and hurt as I had not done anything to hurt him, but he said he just wasn't suiting love it wasn't me.

Then I told him on New years eve I still loved him because I did and still do to this day,

And he said we couldn't be anymore than friends.

But he continues to flirt with me and is always going back and talking about the memorys we have shared together, I don't know if he does still love me or not, but I still want to be more than his friend, But I want to know from an outsiders point of view if you think he could still love me please...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010):

Hi Jodie,

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I would suggest you spending time concentrating on being your very best.

You are lovely,and deserve the best life has to offer. Why not concentrate on your studies,exercising,learn another language,go dancing,buy a new lip gloss.

Focus more attention on yourself,all the while broadening your horizons,and becoming a more interesting well rounded person. Then you will begin attracting more positive influences in your life.

Now for the boys. Im glad you separated from the abusive boyfriend. As for T. Youve already told him you love him and want him. I would be kind to him, but give him enough space to decide what he really wants. Give him enough room to miss you. If he doesn't come around.....no worries. You will surely meet someone else even more wonderful.

Say your prayers, and be the best person you can be. Like often attracts like. Surround yourself with positive influences.

Good Luck and God Bless!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010):

You're still so young its not worth getting involved in all this heavy stuff right now.

Let him go, he probably isn't as mature as you are and can't deal with the emotions a serious relationship brings. Maybe in a few years he will have grown up a bit and you can try again.

For now forget about boys for a bit, most tend to be much more immature than girls anyway and just enjoy going out with your mates and keep dating simple. Just have the odd date with someone and keep it fun and not too serious-There is plenty of time for that in the future, make the most of beign carefree.

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