Am I a slut like everyone says or is this just a phase?
Q. During the outcome of this year, my life has brought me many different things, new experiences and alot of surprises. Alot of people are labeling me as a "slut", I am wondering, do you think the same? or is something else in my life effectin...
A. 2 July 2008: From porn we learn that some people like having sex with one person and one person only, and other people like having sex with lots of different people, often one at a time but sometimes all at once.
All you need to decide is what kind of porn sta... (read in full...)
I am in a situation where I'm married but can't picture spending the rest of my life with him. How do I get out?
Q. i am in a situation where i married a guy but we have not had the ceremony yet. we got married so he could apply for housing (he is in active army) so i could go live with him overseas after our ceremony.. we are supposed to have the wedding in ...
A. 2 July 2008: Porn teaches us that the first step to a life of freedom and random sex with groups of strangers, coworkers, and/or extended family members is to tell the person you're currently with that it's over and then move out.
Eventually you will need a l... (read in full...)
I have no idea what I'm feeling so I really need help!
Q. Alrighty, I'd rather give help then ask for it. I'm usually not very open. But at htis point i don't have a clue what to do or what I'm feeling.I've known this guy literally from kindergarden. We went to the same school for about 4 years. Then i ...
A. 2 July 2008: Consider the lessons of porn.
In porn, if you have confusing feelings about someone, you try kissing them. If you both like it, then you proceed from there. If you don't like it.... porn is a little unclear on that scenario, but generall... (read in full...)
How do I get over an "emotional abuser"?
Q. How do I get over an emotional abuser? I love him deeply, but he always found flaws in me... He was very loving and respectful most of the time. But when he''d get mad and make me cry, he'd get even angrier. It's true I made mistakes, but st...
A. 2 July 2008: Porn teaches us that the best way to get over someone is to have a series of fun, uncomplicated, and logistically unsustainable hookups with whatever new and exciting love interests come along.
These hookups should be interspersed with social b... (read in full...)
Is he just after a UK passport?
Q. i went to turkey a few weeks ago with my family. my sister who is 14 gave her msn addy to a bar man. when we got back he asked to marry her in a few years time. when she tries to explain she doesnt want to (by saying your too old for me, we hardly ...
A. 2 July 2008: Not knowing each other is hardly a disqualification for marriage. However her not wanting to is.
Why is she still talking to someone who wants her to marry him, when she doesn't want to?... (read in full...)
Why do they just stop talking to me suddenly?
Q. I´m very tired of female friends that stop talking to me from one moment to the next. it´s very rude and inconsiderate. It keeps happening to me. I just don´t understand. I´m very sure that it wasn´t from saying or doing anything that could possibly ...
A. 2 July 2008: In porn, such behavior is usually an immediate prelude to spontaneous sex on top of whatever furniture or piece of equipment is most conveniently available. In fact, such encounters may involve some or all of the females in question at the same ... (read in full...)
He may break up with me because his mom does not approve! I'm a single mom...
Q. I am a 32 yr old single mum (my daughter is 15 years old) and I have been seeing a lovely guy for 4 months. I got a bad feeling that something wasn't right with him and I confronted him and asked him if everything was ok. He admitted that he isn't ...
A. 2 July 2008: Tell his mother to be thankful this isn't the age of the Old Testament, when your brother-in-law would be required to impregnate you and your daughter would be obliged to sleep with your man if you were die from, say, being turned into a pillar of ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 1 July 2008: Congratulations on your recent success. You don't come right out and ask a question, but I sense that one is lying just beneath your statement:
"How can I enjoy even more success, and will it lead to love?"
The answer to the first part is ea... (read in full...)
How late is too late to enter the dating game in the modern world?
Q. How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start experiencing relationships. 20? 23? 25? 30? I mean, to really just START! Never been on a date before, never had sex, maybe never even kissed a girl. This could all be due t...
A. 1 July 2008: There is never a good age for "experiencing relationships." That is what happens when you watch a TV movie in which two actors pretend to be people going out on a date, when you're at home alone with nothing but last night's leftover lasagna in the ... (read in full...)
What do I say if I want to get engaged to my girlfriend?(not to marry so soon)
Q. ok, i want to get engaged with my girlfriend but not to marry yet, (would get married later on in the future). but not sure what i have to say lol i have a idea but not sure "(girlfriends name), will you marry me?" or will it be "get eng...
A. 1 July 2008: I'm sorry, but there are a few things in life where you must wait until you're ready, and marriage is one of them.
You will know when you're ready because you will know what to say without having to ask anyone else, or watching a hokey chick fl... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and in a serious relationship. Now I feel I might miss out on something, like living a teenage life, and start feeling confused, what to do?
Q. I am a 17 year old girl in a long-term relationship (1 year) with a 20 year old male. I cannot work out what I want - I love my boyfriend deeply but I am not sure if being in the relationship is what I want anymore. I have been sick for a long ...
A. 1 July 2008: Young people have been asking themselves if they should stay, or if they should go, for thousands of years. Recent epistemological advances have given modern people a huge advantage by reducing the consideration to a very compact form.
Q.
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What does love feel like?
Q. How do you know when you're in love?...
A. 1 July 2008: Knowing when you're in love is tricky and requires a lot of research into the massive body of artistic work which our civilization and others have produced on the subject. You must: - read love poetry, of which a not inconsiderable amount has ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to worry about girls when there are people out there who are worse off?
Q. Is it bad to be one of those people who never gets a girlfriend? I hate reading the questions on here and thinking "god, am i the only person in the world who can't find a girl?" There are so many people with relationship issues that really upset ...
A. 1 July 2008: For 50 thousand years male humans have been ignoring the squalor and misery that surrounds them in order to worry about girls. So it may be wrong, but if it is, you're in good company.
Try getting out more -- you can't meet girls if you're a... (read in full...)
Is this just cold feet or something more? I don't want to get married and regret it!
Q. Hi, I'm 21 years old, my fiance is 22, we are getting married in october of this year. we've been together for 2 years and known eachother for 6. I was very excited about our engagement but somehow in this past month, i've made very poor choices.. ...
A. 1 July 2008: Congratulations! You have stumbled across the ancient mystery of why we have engagements before we get married.
The reason is so that we have as much time as we need to get through all of whatever we have to work out -- money or politics or prope... (read in full...)
Should I tell him my feelings or just be happy with his friendship?
Q. Ok. So here it is. I am ABSOLUTELY in love with this guy who is 12 years older then me. He's 26 and I'm 14. He is unmarried and as far as I know he doesn't have a girlfriend. If he did I would definitely try to forget about him because I want him to ...
A. 1 July 2008: If he's perfect for you, then think how much more perfect he'll be in a few years.
And if you don't believe that "more perfect" makes any sense, it's right there in the Constitution, so tell it to the Supreme Court.... (read in full...)
Is 15 too young to fall in love?
Q. is 15 too young to fall in love? and to find the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with?..i know it would take lots of work and stuff but if you love the person you'll go through it all....
A. 1 July 2008: A certain age being too young to fall in love is like a certain foolhardy action being too stupid to cause injury. While a theoretical lower limit may exist, it's safe to assume that if you can ask the question, then no, it's not.... (read in full...)
I have a mental block that prevents me from having an orgasm during sex! How do I get past it?
Q. i have a mental block that prevents me from coming during sex or fingering, i can come no problem from oral or masturbation...when my bf fingers me it feels amazing and he knows just how to hit my gspot, but when he goes at it for a while i get the ...
A. 1 July 2008: A great Taoist teacher once said: "It is a foolish woman who, having a boyfriend who knows how to make her come every time, tries to get him to do something else instead."
(I might be paraphrasing.)... (read in full...)
What are some techniques for lasting longer in bed? And how can I exercise my PC muscle?
Q. I want to last longer in bed and was wondering if there are any techniques to help me? I've heard of strengthening your PC muscle and Jelqing, do these work? Everytime i try to find my PC muscle i can't seem to find it :S Is there any other...
A. 1 July 2008: Lasting longer in bed is like lasting longer at anything: go slow.
Forget the rest of that nonsense.... (read in full...)
Young People Having Sex
Q. Does anybody else find it as ridiculous as I the age people nowadays are losing their virginity? I am sixteen and have no intention of having sex while I'm still a teenager. It saddens me whenever I hear of girls (and guys) my age running off toge...
A. 1 July 2008: When I was young, young people were too young to be complaining about what young people were up to these days.
Nowadays, you have 16-17 year olds complaining about what kids are up to! It's preposterous.
Why can't we go back to the good old ... (read in full...)
I want to be appreciated, but I can't tear myself away from this guy!
Q. What do i do? i have been with this guy on and off for about three or more years I'm only seventeen years old and I think I am already developing depression. The boy i have been with constantly ignores me and treats me like crap but in my head i al...
A. 1 July 2008: Fortunately there are two easy steps out of your predicament:
1) Date another boy
2) If you're not over the guy in question yet, repeat Step 1
If your family gives you crap about not dating the guy anymore, tell them that they can date... (read in full...)
The condom came off inside me - is there any chance I could be pregnant?
Q. I had sex with my boyfrined on friday last and when we had finished we realised that the condom was off he said he is postive it didnt cme of until he pulled out and that he didnt even come he thinks...and the weird thing is when the condom came of ...
A. 1 July 2008: It's easy to determine the chance that you're pregnant in 3 easy steps.
1. Buy pregnancy test
2. Take pregnancy test
3. Examine results. If it says you're pregnant, then the chance is near 100%. If it says not, then the change is prett... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? Am I destined to be alone?
Q. I've never felt so alone, and it seems like I'm the only person in the world who doesn't have someone special. Sometimes I imagine what it would be like to have a boyfriend who loves me and I imagine being held and talked to lovingly and havi...
A. 1 July 2008: Nobody is destined to be alone. Nobody is destined to be together, either.
What porn teaches us is that when encounters happen we simply need to be prepared to jump into them and give them our all -- even if we find ourselves having sex on the h... (read in full...)
How can I get him to initiate sex?
Q. been with my boyfriend 4 years, and in the last 6 months or so have discovered it is mainly me that initiates sex, as soon as i touch him sexually or kiss him passionately he gets an errection so there is no problem with attraction (i dont think), ...
A. 1 July 2008: Leave him unsigned notes in which you state your desire for him. Describe lurid scenes in which you elaborate on your desire for him to take you, boldly and unhesitatingly. Express your wish for all of this to happen the next time you meet, but ... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 1 July 2008: So he's like a drug. Think about that.
If he were smack, and you were asking if you should stop injecting him into your eyeball or if this was something that was really going to go somewhere, you would hopefully realize the absurdity of your que... (read in full...)
Are there many who are "saving themselves for marriage"?
Q. How many Christians who go to church on a regular basis do you think are saving themselves for marriage these days?...
A. 1 July 2008: Same as there ever have been:
more than you think, but fewer than pretend to be.... (read in full...)
I want to join a Christian group but I feel ashamed of myself. I feel like an outcast.
Q. .I'm 19 years old and I feel like an 'outcast' in society. I feel like everyone wants me to change and be someone who I'm not comfortable with. Most of my values and beleifs are based on Christianity, and although I believe in God, I dont know...
A. 1 July 2008: Doesn't Jesus say that his church is wherever two or more are gathered in his name?
Sounds like all you need to form a Christian group entirely to your own liking is:
- a Bible
- another person
Optional:
- photocopied event flyers and/... (read in full...)
Do you guys think 18 is a bad age for marriage and kids?
Q. do you guys think 18 is a bad age for marriage and kids? i mean like if you find the rite person to be with, have a career and ur partner has a job to fall back on.....
A. 1 July 2008: Asking if 18 is a good age for marriage and children is like asking, "Is the remote wilderness a fun place for a vacation?"
The answer is that it all depends -- Who are you with? How well equipped are you? What do you have to fall back on? Do ... (read in full...)
Is my ex just trying to keep me on strings while he sees what else is out there?
Q. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. I wanted to work things out but he didn't. He moved to another state to work and wanted no contact. Little by little, he keeps calling. Every day he'll either call or send an email about something in our...
A. 1 July 2008: If you want to know if he wants to get back together, ask him to move back to where you are.
If he doesn't, there you have it. ... (read in full...)
I'm a Highly Sensitive Person. How do I find the right girl?
Q. I have a little problem, I recently learned that I am a Highly Sensitive Person, and that HPS people are sensitive to many things and I began to wonder, how can I find a girl who would be willing to deal with someone as sensitive as I am. Please ...
A. 1 July 2008: Wouldn't "HPS" mean "Highly Person Sensitive"?
Porn teaches us that the best way to meet girls is get right down to it and not waste any time. In addition, from studying porn wisdom we learn that if one is really turned on, turned off, or gener... (read in full...)
I need some wisdom about why I keep making bad choices! Now a married man?
Q. I'am an emotional mess....I dated my first love and everything for almost 5 years...he cheated,lied....you know the deal....i forgave him the 2 times he cheated,,,i always felt resentment but i loved him and decided to continue with him...after all ...
A. 1 July 2008: Making bad choices is like driving down the highway with a flat tire. You can't understand why you're swerving all over the place and your life is making this horrible "flupflupflupflup" sound.
Eventually you realize that something is wrong an... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of my emotional attachment to my ex?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a few months--he is WONDERFUL. I mean I don't even have to ask for anything, he just does it. He's like a prince charming. Everyone in my family loves him and so do my friends. There is only one problem....I don't think ...
A. 1 July 2008: Throughout the ages people have found many ways to get over the chemical attachments to exes that have formed in their brains. These invariably take the form of other chemicals. For example:
smack: there is nothing like heroin to oblitera... (read in full...)
Did I cheat or did I not cheat? I'm so confused....
Q. Ok, so the guy that I am dating (but he claims we are not in a relationship "JUST dating") stopped speaking to me for two weeks. I thought he was not coming back. History: Long story short, (about 3 years ago) I was married for a year and my no...
A. 1 July 2008: Porn wisdom teaches us that if a man gets up and leaves a scene full of sex and fun, another man will climb in and take his place in a cycle as natural and certain as the recurrence of the tide.
Furthermore, blues music (and English property... (read in full...)
Dry spot and severe pain is putting me off sex! What's wrong?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 15 months now and at first the sex was great and just about every night! Now its hardly ever, which I guess is normal but recently I haven't been enjoying it as much and it has also become painful. I ha...
A. 1 July 2008: It's astonishing how many Dear Cupid questions can be answered with one simple word:
lube.... (read in full...)
I want my ex back but he won't talk to me! What do people think?
Q. My problem is that I would like to get back with my ex but he won't even talk to me. We broke up 9 months ago-he said he wasn't ready for a relationship and broke it off suddenly after getting heavy, making long term plans for us etc. I texted him ...
A. 1 July 2008: To say the right things is a great and noble ambition, but one which is chronically wasted on the previous guys of the world.
Saying the right thing to the guy who's gone is like showing up with a handful of birdseed for the bluebird that's a... (read in full...)
He wants a threesome, I said no. Have you tried this and how did it work out?
Q. The guy I am seeing has asked me to do a threesome with me. I am not into it and have said no. I mean I know it is suppose to be every guys fantasy, but, I just wondered how many other girls have been asked to do them by guys they are seeing? ...
A. 1 July 2008: Porn teaches us that both men and women are ready and eager for threesomes, and more, at any time of day, under virtually any circumstances as long as they are well lit, and with nearly anyone else including passers-by.
Of course, porn also tea... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my step sister? Our parents found out and they want to break either their relationship or ours.
Q. My dad is about to get married and she has a daughter and we really like each other and have been keeping a secret relationship for 2 months. they just found out and they want either their relationship to end or ours. Either way i wont be living in ...
A. 1 July 2008: Tell them that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. And then move to San Francisco.... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him him so much. Heart or head?
Q. I'm considering ending my relationship of 8 months because I have become so paranoid about my boyfriend cheating. Four months ago he suggested going on a break for a few weeks, and later admitted it was to see another girl who he took on dates and ...
A. 30 June 2008: The lessons of porn are very salient here. From watching porn it is immediately clear that the world is full of men who are ready to satisfy your every erotic need, possibly even while you are at work, sitting by the pool, or attempting to give a ... (read in full...)
How do I learn to trust and regain my self esteem?
Q. Hi everyone. I am seeking some advice on how to get beyond the things that have happened to my marriage and my self esteem. My husband of six years (together for 10) cheated on me with an 18 year old girl. He actually left the kids and I for about ...
A. 30 June 2008: By US federal statute of 1966, supported by international amendment to the Geneva Conventions, your right to be angry cannot ever be revoked. (Your right to jab the other woman with a stick if she comes too close may be limited by local ordinance: ... (read in full...)
What should I do since my parents don't trust me and my BF sleeping in the same room?
Q. me and my new bf have been dating for a month and my parents still don't trust him sleeping in the same bed as me even if they are in the same room. what should i do since my parents don't trust me.please help...
A. 30 June 2008: Sleep in different rooms, obviously.
If you lack the stealth to sneak into each others' beds in the middle of the night, then you aren't ready for sex. Try training in night-time commando exercises for a while instead, and see if that improves... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't work and is immature, the new guy is a drug dealer. Who do I choose?
Q. ok i got a problem...ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year and i love him to death, but he dont work he is kinda immatuire and we fight about stupid things...well i met this other guy he is so sweet to me he is all i think about he does everything ...
A. 30 June 2008: In porn, we find that when a young woman is confronted by two equally unappealing men, if she ditches them both and goes for a short walk down the street, or sits in a lawn chair in her front yard, at least one other option -- and possible more than ... (read in full...)
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